My style of dating uses a great deal of up front vetting via text or other modalities, I usually have a good handle on their physical appearance and general personality traits. I’ve also typically already made her emotionally invested in me. This means my willingness to bang has to be high for me to even mobilize to a coffee date. It also means she is probably 80% sure she wants the D already.
I also, despite in many ways railing against this in principle, feel that as a male my domain is that of provider, I’m successful and my money is a representation of my efforts in life. If I enjoy a woman’s company I will want to pay for the meal, drink or whatever - it makes ME feel good to do so.
However, a woman that takes this first interaction for granted? That makes no mention of it or makes no move or comment to go Dutch? Yeah, sorry that’s outright entitlement and gets put in the negative column, if she’s hot and I can bang I will, but chances are that I will not pursue it further.
Early in my adult dating career I had a chick in her 40’s maybe a 7 age adjusted visit me for a drink in the lobby of a W hotel (trendy) I was staying at for business. She was kind of rude and entitled, after about 30-40 minutes of trying to break the ice i excuses myself to use the bathroom, spoke to the waitress, paid my half of the bill and walked away and left her ass there. The waitress then, I assume delivered the gal the balance. I just went back out the door to a bar down the street - hoes need to be taught a lesson sometimes. My enhanced vetting process filters people like out well before our first meeting is even suggested (online).
P.s. as an older high value male I’ve taken coeds out for meals and drinks, THEY have offered to pay their own way, even if i so severely out earn them it’s absurd, why can’t a 40-something strong, intelligent and independent woman do so? The world is upside down if ya ask me...if a chick isn’t willing to give ME chase I next them, it’s simple.
I also, despite in many ways railing against this in principle, feel that as a male my domain is that of provider, I’m successful and my money is a representation of my efforts in life. If I enjoy a woman’s company I will want to pay for the meal, drink or whatever - it makes ME feel good to do so.
However, a woman that takes this first interaction for granted? That makes no mention of it or makes no move or comment to go Dutch? Yeah, sorry that’s outright entitlement and gets put in the negative column, if she’s hot and I can bang I will, but chances are that I will not pursue it further.
Early in my adult dating career I had a chick in her 40’s maybe a 7 age adjusted visit me for a drink in the lobby of a W hotel (trendy) I was staying at for business. She was kind of rude and entitled, after about 30-40 minutes of trying to break the ice i excuses myself to use the bathroom, spoke to the waitress, paid my half of the bill and walked away and left her ass there. The waitress then, I assume delivered the gal the balance. I just went back out the door to a bar down the street - hoes need to be taught a lesson sometimes. My enhanced vetting process filters people like out well before our first meeting is even suggested (online).
P.s. as an older high value male I’ve taken coeds out for meals and drinks, THEY have offered to pay their own way, even if i so severely out earn them it’s absurd, why can’t a 40-something strong, intelligent and independent woman do so? The world is upside down if ya ask me...if a chick isn’t willing to give ME chase I next them, it’s simple.