I've posted here several times. I always point out that I'm 70-ish years old and married to the same woman for 35 years. Nonetheless, I've learned a lot from the collective wisdom here. We didn't have anything like this back in the day and I'm thankful to be able to learn what I can and apply it to my life situation. Maybe you have some ideas about how to better game a problem I have.
My wife has a thing for really unattractive women friends. Multiple degrees, six figure incomes, all of them single but truly below average in looks. I mean fat, poorly groomed, and dressed sloppy frumpy with personalities to match. What's so wierd is my wife is just the opposite. She's 5'2"/115, works out at a gym 3 times a week and is extremely well dressed and stylish. We both dress well and she's always very together in​ her appearance whether in classic European fashion or edgey urban street style trendy. But, if she walked into a room full of a hundred women, 99 of them gorgeous and smart with great personality but one wildebeest carrying an unpublished poetry manuscript, she would walk past the 99 hotties without even seeing them and straight to the wildebeest​
I just can't stand hanging out with sloppy ugly women that don't take care of themselves or their health and appearance. It's affected our relationship, fragmented our social life and it's a major source of disappointment for me. The best I've been able to negotiate is that she goes to lunch with them, without me, but I don't let her bring them to the house. I suppose she's insecure and doesn't like competition, but I've never hit on any of her friends so there's no reason for her to think I would start. I'm interested to know if any of the older guys especially have run across something like this. It would be great if there is a way to work with this and not just give up and accept it as a failure.
My wife has a thing for really unattractive women friends. Multiple degrees, six figure incomes, all of them single but truly below average in looks. I mean fat, poorly groomed, and dressed sloppy frumpy with personalities to match. What's so wierd is my wife is just the opposite. She's 5'2"/115, works out at a gym 3 times a week and is extremely well dressed and stylish. We both dress well and she's always very together in​ her appearance whether in classic European fashion or edgey urban street style trendy. But, if she walked into a room full of a hundred women, 99 of them gorgeous and smart with great personality but one wildebeest carrying an unpublished poetry manuscript, she would walk past the 99 hotties without even seeing them and straight to the wildebeest​
I just can't stand hanging out with sloppy ugly women that don't take care of themselves or their health and appearance. It's affected our relationship, fragmented our social life and it's a major source of disappointment for me. The best I've been able to negotiate is that she goes to lunch with them, without me, but I don't let her bring them to the house. I suppose she's insecure and doesn't like competition, but I've never hit on any of her friends so there's no reason for her to think I would start. I'm interested to know if any of the older guys especially have run across something like this. It would be great if there is a way to work with this and not just give up and accept it as a failure.