Quote: (11-12-2018 02:06 PM)questor70 Wrote:
You're making generalizations here. Elaborate on the circumstances for why the guy is "bouncing"? Could be anything from a ONS to things just not working out. In my last relationship, we had great sex, but overall, I just didn't fall completely in love with her and she kept pushing for more and more commitment. You go into these things with the best of intentions but you can't make an omelette without breaking some eggs.
And really, the older I get the more I have to concede that all relationships, even the best of them, have a shelf-life. We just try to fool ourselves going in that someone's a keeper and it's gonna last the rest of our lives. Point being that commitment by itself doesn't mean jack. What matters is that whatever time you spend with someone be the best possible. And that's what I mean by good sex. Do it like it's gonna be the last time because one day it will be.
Your experience fairly well matches mine. If you provide good sex, women want more. If you can't provide that it leaves them feeling hurt.
I still believe in love. I just don't believe it's what Disney and Hollywood say it is. The pursuit of hedonism rarely makes someone happy... I've done it and been left feeling very empty. What's important is to find a woman that gives back at least as much as you put in... and then build something together. Passion and hot sex... yeah that does have a shelf life. Eventually, I get bored with even the hottest girl. However, I believe there is more to love than sex. I could be wrong though.
Quote: (11-12-2018 04:06 PM)BadBoyGamer Wrote:
And you base this on what?
You just have some number in your head?
And then "poof".
A "good girl" turns into a "slut"?
This is accurate thinking. We need to be ditching the Madonna/Whore complex