Quote: (11-06-2018 10:37 PM)TheRealOne Wrote:
Should I try and just fake my attitude while still remaining as congruent as possible or just take time out of the game until I get back there naturally?
guys
For me both attitudes co-exist without issues. Talking with women (especially women I've already banged) relaxes me. Constant teasing etc is fun, a little addictive even. I feel like I'm in the moment. It complements my 'logical' mindset throughout most of my day where I'm in my head, thinking about past events and planning for future events.
The above mindset comes naturally after internalising key truths of life. Its a set of rock-solid personal beliefs, very deep understanding of related subjects:
1. Women's brains are not designed for comprehension and analysis of complex and deep issues like your brain is, no matter how hard you want to believe otherwise. This is not debatable, its a scientific fact.
2. Women simply do not respond well to weakness. Women are disgusted by weakness. Showing weakness to women and expecting help in return is silly.
Think of a 30 yo man talking about self-development, and mastering himself to a 5 yo who cannot yet read. Its the same thing.
3. In addition to the above, the main thing with self development (after internalising the ugly truths) is taking action. There is nothing more you can do. Overthinking things achieves nothing.
For example, the gym: Did you lift today? Did you track your calories? that's it. No reason to not be relaxed and enjoy your time with a girl afterwards.
Being in your head 24/7 is anxiety, not a conscious + productive mindset. Take as many actions as you can during the day to steer your life in the direction you wish, then totally relax and enjoy your night with a pretty girl. It will clear your focus and give you perspective for the next day.