Quote: (08-11-2018 02:51 AM)Tiger Man Wrote:
I haven't been on the forum in a while. I've had a bit of a health crisis that is being compounded by the fact that I am in Canada just now. However, I wanted to get on the forum and try to catch up on a few threads and PMs I had going. To that end, a quick update.
Despite recent health issue, I have continued my experiment in online dating. I am at about "Experiment 1.5" right now. I haven't been able to sign up for all the sites I wanted to just yet, but I will.
For now, I will provide a few anecdotes related to my first batch experiment.
First, I know there is a whole spectrum of, let's say, ethical beliefs on RVF. So, this might resonate with some of you and fall on deaf ears with others. I am having a bit of an ethical concern with some of the relationship game I ran during the first round. Many (many!) of the girls I was running relationship game have kept in contact. When I have attempted to let it fizzle out, that seems to just cause them to up the pursuing. I'm not much for ghosting, so I know I am eventually going to have to "Dear Jane" a few of these girls and I get the distinct impression that I am going to mess some of them up. I am in the camp of not doing too much damage to the young/virginal/wife-material girls. They are so rare in the wild that it is unfair to cull them. Anyway, that's just my two cents on that. In the future, I am going to be more careful with letting things go on too long with that sort of girl.
Second, I found a real solid girl in the OKC doctor from California. I won't get too specific here. But, I recently fell very ill (I may write a post about my experience in the Canadian healthcare system, but I have about seven half-written posts, so we'll see). I was texting back and forth with this girl and she was begging me to come back and visit her. I told her I was in the hospital in City X and, when she didn't believe me, I FaceTimed with her (from my actual hospital bed). I explained what was going on and that I was in the city by myself. She asked exactly what hospital I was in and then told me she would be in touch. Long story short, I wake up the next morning, and guess who has shown up at the hospital? To put it in context, she took vacation from her job and jumped on a plane to a foreign country to take care of me. I didn't ask for it. I didn't, in any way, indicate that I needed or wanted help. She has been driving around the city and taking me to all my medical appointments and picking up medication and the rest of it. Unless this girl is running some "The Americans" I'm actually a KGB Agent level of game on me, I think I found a quasi-unicorn. I will report back in the future on that one. I first have to assess exactly what her angle is in this sort-of relationship.
Finally, I am thinking of drafting a list to be included in my next instalment of online red flags. I think they are somewhat different to the red flags you get when talking to a woman in real life. Also, the online girls often give away good intel in their photos (I don't think enough guys pay attention to this). As an example of what I am talking about. I have found that girls that have a CrossFit shot in their pictures throw down a big red flag for me. Having interacted with (at this point) several hundred (maybe more) women from online dating sites, I have found that displays of more traditionally masculine hobbies indicates a no-go girl for me. I have a few friends who have pointed out the "sweet ass" on this girl or that girl who has a squat shot on her profile. But, in almost all cases, I get an Ottavia Bourdain vibe from these girls. Boxing, hunting or shooting, ditto. I talk to a lot of game-aware guys who do online, and many seem to think that if a girl has a picture of her hunting with her dad that means she's some type of old school traditionalist. I have found the opposite. Girls that know the best place to buy a power rack in their city, or how to handle a Ruger Penny-Pincher often aren't traditionalist/conservative in any applied way. They are far more likely to want to down half a case of Molson and "compare numbers" - hint, she's going to win. I also have developed an aversion to pursuing relationships with women in certain professions that I never gave a second thought to before (massage therapists, for example). All of this is coming from "in the field" experience, so I will have to sit down and write out my thoughts to see if they make any sense.
And on that note, I will close it out. Sorry if this post is rambling or full of spelling errors. I am fairly highly medicated at the moment and the words are sort of dancing around on the page. I trust you all get the general meaning of my post. And to any members who are awaiting a response on a thread or in PMs, I will try to get around to you in the next few days. But, no promises.
You seem like a real stand-up dude & I applaud you for being so candid. I experienced a minor health issue (did get quite painful for a bit) that took me outta commission from the game for about 3 or 4 months or so at the tail end of last year & the start of this year. I know the feeling. Only two things in life seem to be certain. Death & taxes. Keep fighting the good fight my man!