Quote: (08-04-2018 12:04 AM)jordypip23 Wrote:
Quote: (08-03-2018 09:38 PM)a beer is enough Wrote:
I really thought about this thread and I think I know why some men turn into lifelong players or throw away the marriage life for good. It takes a certain kind of an ego and pride to really make this happen and that is what it comes down to. Majority of the guys chasing this life, whether they like to admit it or not, are chasing it for the validation that comes from this very life. Being a player is dangerous yet even in this feminized society we secretly look up to men who get laid a lot.
When this ego is bruised at some point in life, instead of taking the hit and just shaking it off, it seeks redemption and wants to get even. It doesn't even have to apply to women either, it can apply to anything from success in athletics to success in business. Some guys naturally have this sort of an ego that once it is bruised or hurt, they have this desire to seek redemption.
While some say it is because a girl broke his heart, I think it can be other social setbacks too such as not fitting in with the cool kids in your developmental years.
It is rare for a guy who was high SMV early in life to be a player for so long because the chip on his shoulder is not there. The need to go out often, approach lots of girls, set up a nice dating profile and make lifestyle sacrifices to fuck lots of hot women is just not worth it.
For me, that is the reason I have put in effort into this lifestyle because I almost committed suicide due to the social depression I was going through in college. My high school and college years were arguably the worst years of my life which is why when anyone hypes them up so much, it tends to hit a nerve.
I'll never experience being 16 and sneaking into a girl's house with her as her parents are gone and fucking, the adrenaline rush that would come from it.
I'll never experience fucking a hot high school teacher when I am a high school student and hoping we don't get caught.
I'll never experience fucking an 18 year old hot college girl when I am 18 as well going through the same things in life.
It bites at me at times but at the same time, I seek this lifestyle as a band-aid in a way. Even if I am 35 and fucking randoms who aren't nearly as hot as the ones some 20 year old dude high SMV dude would be fucking, I am cool with that. I'll even take fucking escorts (in places where it is legal) over marriage and kids because for a guy like me, marriage is giving up and losing.
I am fucked up right? Well, I admit it, most guys who are fucked up won't....
They'll try to bash the game and take a blue pill approach to life.
They'll join MGTOW type movements while looking for sympathy on a game forum.
They'll talk about how "there is so much more to life than pussy because women are evil" garbage while deep down, wanting to fucking hot girls but knowing they lack the spine and willpower this lifestyle requires.
Maybe I lack that willpower too and maybe I'll never get there, who the fuck knows but I admit that it was a fucked up childhood and a college experience that almost drove me to suicide which has me chasing this lifestyle. If I have to avoid and skip marriage altogether and a die lonely man, that is the path I will take. That is how bad I want it and I am willing to make the sacrifices for it which is why I have had successes in the past.
I know that I will lose a ton of friends and make a lot of enemies by chasing this life, but I am willing to accept every setback from STDs and even an early death for it.....
LOL bro I'm begging you. I'm imploring you. Stop lamenting the past. Stop ruminating on this. Live life as hardcore as you can. Work hard, play hard. Grab it by the pussy my bro. Look. I went through a divorce & I have a son, but I love my son (my ex loves my son as well). Even though I took the plunge & it didn't work out, I wouldn't take back my son for the world. I know for a fact he has good genetics from both sides & that we are ensuring that he will have access to a very good education & comfortable surroundings to grow up in (this seems highly likely fortunately).
I'm not crying about the past. I think that the struggles from the past only make me stronger, and you should look at it the same way. You said it yourself. You can whip yourself up into good shape & you're not tied down geographically. You still have the world ahead of you bro. You have PLENTY of time, so start living life & enjoy it.
One of the absolute best posts I've seen on this site. Glad I could create a thread that brought out gems like this. Beer, all I can tell you is that the player phase, for a lot of people, is just an itch to scratch. You'll keep going, rack up thirty notches, and probably get bored after a certain point. It's not a big deal, I have full confidence that you can do it.