I was at my most popular when I had a steady girlfriend from ages 17-21, was getting laid all the time, and therefore didn't care WHAT anyone thought.
I was a condescending, sardonic asshole who mocked everything and thought I was above it all because I'd grown up in NYC and listened to music no one else had ever heard. Women in college ate this up and I was unexpectedly popular.
All the while, I was nowhere near 5'11", but I was very cute. In fact, I'd reckon that my entire persona worked because I wasn't big. Had I been a big guy, my sarcasm would likely have been perceived as a lot darker and more dangerous -- and put people off.
Once the college girlfriend and I split up, I got anxious and felt adrift. I became nicer because for the first time, I felt I needed people. And I was a lot less popular that summer.
My conclusion: Women can smell fear. And it repulses them. It says "This is a weak man who will not ever have the means to protect me." "Protection" means more than the physical. It means the guy has the confidence to go out and make enough money to keep the woman and her spawn secure.
All of this happens on an unconscious level. Women don't usually "get" why they feel the way they do, and if you confront them, you're likely to get phony platitudes.
Anyway, if you have an inner confidence and don't give a fuck, some women, somewhere will get turned on. And that will transcend physicality and perhaps even out-and-out ugliness.
I was a condescending, sardonic asshole who mocked everything and thought I was above it all because I'd grown up in NYC and listened to music no one else had ever heard. Women in college ate this up and I was unexpectedly popular.
All the while, I was nowhere near 5'11", but I was very cute. In fact, I'd reckon that my entire persona worked because I wasn't big. Had I been a big guy, my sarcasm would likely have been perceived as a lot darker and more dangerous -- and put people off.
Once the college girlfriend and I split up, I got anxious and felt adrift. I became nicer because for the first time, I felt I needed people. And I was a lot less popular that summer.
My conclusion: Women can smell fear. And it repulses them. It says "This is a weak man who will not ever have the means to protect me." "Protection" means more than the physical. It means the guy has the confidence to go out and make enough money to keep the woman and her spawn secure.
All of this happens on an unconscious level. Women don't usually "get" why they feel the way they do, and if you confront them, you're likely to get phony platitudes.
Anyway, if you have an inner confidence and don't give a fuck, some women, somewhere will get turned on. And that will transcend physicality and perhaps even out-and-out ugliness.