Quote: (07-22-2018 03:16 PM)Gorgiass Wrote:
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A lot of the early PUA stuff was all about applying psychology to game, from the fringes of NLP to mainstream stuff like Cialdini. What do you mean specifically by "personality psychology", and what do you recommend for reading?
Personality psychology is a branch of psychology that studies personality and its variation among individuals. It is a scientific study which aims to show how people are individually different due to psychological forces.
This is the wikipedia page where I got that definition but I think this article is a better and shorter introduction to personality psychology and the big 5 personality traits.
This video is an introduction to the big 5 from one of Jordan Peterson's classes. I know some people don't like Peterson's politics but this video is strictly an academic lecture and he is highly qualified in this area.
I'll give an example of how these concepts can be helpful in relationships. Many guys on this forum are low in agreeableness but want a traditional wife. There is some conflict here and understanding the big 5 can prevent you from marrying the wrong women or help you understand what sacrifices and compromises need to be made so the relationship will work.
Typically you want to avoid having a partner who is extremely different from you in one of the personality traits because that difference is going to create conflict, however, many guys on this forum are low in agreeableness but they want very traditional wives and unfortunately a woman who is traditional and wants to play a supportive role to a husband is almost definitely going to be high in agreeableness and support characteristics. So you have to balance these things by possibly not marrying a women if the two of you are polar opposites or by knowing how to manage less extreme personality differences.
Peterson talks about the same example at the 25 minute mark of his video. However, I experienced this situation in my life many years before I knew who Peterson was and I correlated it to a different personality model at the time using almost the exact same words as Peterson, so I know this happens in the real world. There are disciplines within psychology that might be bad science or aren't applicable to the real world but the big 5 is accurate and realistic.