Quote: (06-26-2018 10:48 AM)mistakemaker Wrote:
Another thing: How in the hell do you try to approach interesting girls that are in groups?
As I said before, I am NOT the type to go out to clubs or bars, but I don't mind going out in parks, for example, or just walking around. I swear to God, nearly everytime I saw a decent or highly smashable girl in the park, she was with a fugly friend and a couple of times, with girls around her looks level (which tends to make things even more intimidating). How in the hell do you separate these chicks from the pack? I like walking in parks while listening to audiobooks (staying alone in the house tends to let dark thoughts in, about my loneliness) but something like 95% of the time, hot girls are usually either with a guy (most likely boyfriend) or with a group of friends, not alone.
I already know that some of you will advice picking up chicks on the street but most of the eye catching ones are usually in no mood to talk cause they are in a hurry, whereas I would think the ones that come to the park, come to take a load off and enjoy some peace and quiet, thus being a bit more receptive to strange guys coming over to proposition them.
You clearly aren't following the advice that we labored to give you. Delete every picture you have of this girl and block her on all social media (this is an order). We already told you everything you did wrong and left no stone unturned, so you're just wallowing by bringing her up to your friend. You're just prolonging this way more than you need to. She obviously only seems so special because you have limited access to new options. So fix that by continuing to meet new people.
Just get out there and do more activities where you can meet strangers and network. Stop worrying so much about the quality. Be realistic about what your value is physically and career wise and shoot for that ballpark or below it to start. One doesn't simply go from being a depressed hermit to being Rico Suave with twenty year old 8+s over night.
Approaching women in public is inherently a bit needy and is basically like cold calling. With no social proof or status it is going to be hard to do well for yourself and naturally has very low returns for most. It's fine for practice but unless you're exceptionally good looking and good with game it's going to be hard. If you can't impress the washed up cougars at speed dating it's going to be a tall order to close hot strangers in the park.
Why don't you try nightlife to get some practice and confidence? When you're trying to get back into things and build up confidence at least go after a demographic that is open to meeting new people.