I had the same problem when I was younger, missed a huge number of opportunities because i couldn't make simple moves.
I too would advise against a "say what's on your mind" MO, in favor of "doing what's on your mind." If a girl is into you, she's going to want you to make moves, and talking about it in anyway is going to be a mood killer. There is a way to work a verbal "here is what I am going to do to you" kind of routine but that is an advanced game technique and is more about mental dominance than escalation.
my recommendation would be to listen to your own nerves, when you start to feel that tension like you're a little nervous to escalate, that's the signal to escalate. In that situation she is probably feeling the same thing, and her hind brain is thinking is this guy ever going to close the deal?
Another thing: there's been a new wave of paranoia going around with all of this me-too stuff; don't worry about it. That was about powerful men harassing women in the workplace, not social pickup. The worst thing that will probably happen if you read this wrong is a girl will stop talking to you, and any girl who gets upset that a guy she was flirting with tries to kiss her has some serious issues that are not your fault.
I too would advise against a "say what's on your mind" MO, in favor of "doing what's on your mind." If a girl is into you, she's going to want you to make moves, and talking about it in anyway is going to be a mood killer. There is a way to work a verbal "here is what I am going to do to you" kind of routine but that is an advanced game technique and is more about mental dominance than escalation.
my recommendation would be to listen to your own nerves, when you start to feel that tension like you're a little nervous to escalate, that's the signal to escalate. In that situation she is probably feeling the same thing, and her hind brain is thinking is this guy ever going to close the deal?
Another thing: there's been a new wave of paranoia going around with all of this me-too stuff; don't worry about it. That was about powerful men harassing women in the workplace, not social pickup. The worst thing that will probably happen if you read this wrong is a girl will stop talking to you, and any girl who gets upset that a guy she was flirting with tries to kiss her has some serious issues that are not your fault.