[Philosopher]

(05-05-2017 05:52 PM)LeoneVolpe Wrote:  

If your woman finds out you're seeing another woman behind her back, of course she's going to flip out. But I don't see how being honest with a woman about seeing other women after you've been seeing each other for a while does anything to mitigate a negative response.

Being honest with a woman violates the "Conceal Your Intentions" Law of Power, by giving her information she can then use against you. A woman might eventually end up in a position to hurt you anyway, but I wouldn't be quick to provide her with a useful blueprint on how to potentially do it.

In my experience, honesty (especially as it relates to women) isn't always the best policy.

To share one of my longest personal experiences while being on the blue pill. This was an LTR with a Russian exchange student who I met in Colorado (a 7). We began sleeping in 2009 and being a chump, I quickly agreed to an LTR - mostly due to her superb blowjob skills and her seemingly being open-mined to an open-relationship as long as we were honest with one another.

After moving to Russia the next year, got a gig teaching English for corporate students and lived in my gf's flat in the distant Moscow suburbs (one hour train ride) and one of my colleagues an (8.5 with super long legs) was giving me the green light. I told my girlfriend that I was going to sleep with her and she was nervous about it, though she actually blew me as I was seducing my colleague via skype. After I went over to my colleagues house to bang her, my gf became upset and ran away to live with her aunt for a week. Undeterred, continued banging my long-legged colleague while my gf came back and caused a scene when she saw our pic together on facebook. She then left again, to visit her parents this time. I continued my affair.

A few weeks later, she came back with an upgrade - died her hair blonde, sexy dresses and high heels. Went up to a 9 so went back to fucking her. I would continue fucking both girls for the next month or so and even suggested a schedule to my gf that I would spend one night there one night here. This caused her to become upset at me again. I went back to the tall mistress. Eventually, my gf persuaded me to offer a threesome to my mistress (brilliant move on her part) and my mistress refused and threw out all my clothes from her apartment. Went back to living with my gf.

In essence, the relationship never really went back to normal as after the threat of my mistress was gone, she began to nag me about cheating on her. At every argument, her counterpoint was that I was a cheater. Our relationship hobbled along with me now going behind her back (throw-away phones, fake accounts, etc.) to cheat and she actually got back at me when I went on a hunting trip to Karelia in 2011. She told me about it herself, that it was a onetime fling an I said "we are even" We still had amazing sex and filmed amateur porn but the trust was gone. On a visa run in 2012, I cheated on her some more with 38 year old single mom (a 6.5) and was honest with her - which caused her to have a nervous break down. A month later, she began cheating on me, just as I had helped her buy and remodel a new flat. It was obvious since she was not home. Finally, I decided to end this cycle and rented a flat with some of my buddies.

Draw your own conclusions, but as you can see, girls may agree to an open-relationship in theory, but they are not equipped to handle it when it actually happens. Though on the bright side, they will "upgrade" themselves if they think you are worse keeping. Perhaps continuing to cheat openly would have kept the pressure on her but the nagging and stress outweighed the sex. When I was moving out, I felt just like Roosh did at the end of Possy Paradise. I was free to chase the holy grail once again.