rules all gamers should remember
03-19-2018, 02:22 PM
No preamble. Here are key concepts I have come to understand.
Contextualize her and your place on the 1-10 scale for everything.
Your tactics must completely change based on where she sits on the general attractiveness scale, and where you sit, and you have to be honest. A 6 has a completely different reality than a 9 or 10. Being really nice and being direct works great for a 6. Your 6 friend might give you advice "women just want a guy that is direct and not beat around the bush." while this is mostly true, you must keep in context her 6 world view. A 10's advice is more "you think you are being creative, but you are not. I can sense from a mile away that you are trying too hard to get around to clumsily asking me out" Too many dudes instinctually go overboard with their peacocking when approaching an 8-10, as if they think if they dont say something remarkably interesting or funny she will be gone. This of course backfires: men that 8-10s actually hang out with dont act in this wishful, desperate manner.
Basically, act like youve been there before. Easier said than done.
Choose more isolated, non-FOMO locations
My Vegas/Hollywood/NYC game is super weak, but I think it might be just that I go for 8-10s, and every woman is in full FOMO mode at all times. You waste time making progress, and then they and their friends have something better across town to go to. In the case of LA/NYC, its always some actor or musician thats throwing a party or some shit. In vegas, its more likely during day game your girl is staying at a different place and doesnt want to leave her friends, and night game theres just way too many options.
Contrast this with cities with small downtowns or big cities with small pockets, or destination locations. The psychology of choice restriction is your friend. Examples of game-perfect cities for bagging that 8-10: Stockholm, Warsaw, Charleston SC, Scottsdale AZ, San Diego, and the top of all time, Palm Springs.
The confidence that comes with understanding she doesnt know you
I used to get frustrated when I got turned down. Discouraged and lost confidence. Then once I was hiring a person for my company, and realized I am completely guessing based on the information I have, which is not much, about what type of person I have before me. By analogy I realized its irrational to get discouraged that a girl that doesnt know you turns you down. She doesnt know you and is just using heuristics and cues to make decisions! Embrace the feedback of how you are presenting yourself!
All thoughts / disagreements [/b]welcomed!
Contextualize her and your place on the 1-10 scale for everything.
Your tactics must completely change based on where she sits on the general attractiveness scale, and where you sit, and you have to be honest. A 6 has a completely different reality than a 9 or 10. Being really nice and being direct works great for a 6. Your 6 friend might give you advice "women just want a guy that is direct and not beat around the bush." while this is mostly true, you must keep in context her 6 world view. A 10's advice is more "you think you are being creative, but you are not. I can sense from a mile away that you are trying too hard to get around to clumsily asking me out" Too many dudes instinctually go overboard with their peacocking when approaching an 8-10, as if they think if they dont say something remarkably interesting or funny she will be gone. This of course backfires: men that 8-10s actually hang out with dont act in this wishful, desperate manner.
Basically, act like youve been there before. Easier said than done.
Choose more isolated, non-FOMO locations
My Vegas/Hollywood/NYC game is super weak, but I think it might be just that I go for 8-10s, and every woman is in full FOMO mode at all times. You waste time making progress, and then they and their friends have something better across town to go to. In the case of LA/NYC, its always some actor or musician thats throwing a party or some shit. In vegas, its more likely during day game your girl is staying at a different place and doesnt want to leave her friends, and night game theres just way too many options.
Contrast this with cities with small downtowns or big cities with small pockets, or destination locations. The psychology of choice restriction is your friend. Examples of game-perfect cities for bagging that 8-10: Stockholm, Warsaw, Charleston SC, Scottsdale AZ, San Diego, and the top of all time, Palm Springs.
The confidence that comes with understanding she doesnt know you
I used to get frustrated when I got turned down. Discouraged and lost confidence. Then once I was hiring a person for my company, and realized I am completely guessing based on the information I have, which is not much, about what type of person I have before me. By analogy I realized its irrational to get discouraged that a girl that doesnt know you turns you down. She doesnt know you and is just using heuristics and cues to make decisions! Embrace the feedback of how you are presenting yourself!
All thoughts / disagreements [/b]welcomed!