[PapayaTapper]

(02-03-2018 03:50 PM)jabba Wrote:  

^^This is fine. I like the different opinions.

I know how to escalate and close same day and long game. I hit on her the first time we met. She knew my motivations from the onset. The timing didn’t work.

She was in orbit and wrote her off. Texting was intermittent over time. There wasn’t enough momentum to sexually calibrate. The vibe waned from the initial time we met.

When she contacted me out of the blue to meet, I had low expectations. Correct. I didn’t make a move, because there wasn’t as much chemistry this time. She looked different this time. This new era of #metoo makes me wait for a stronger signal before making a bold move.

I always play to win, but I’m OK if it doesn’t always go in my favor every time.

I’m more cautious these days. It will probably yield lower results until I figure out the right balance. I take my reputation more serious vs. trying too hard to close a girl. We’ve witnessed men accused of improper behavior decades ago and ruin their careers. I don’t want to take that chance.

The sandwich test was to confirm that I should leave. I wasn’t angry. I just got the message and moved on. There’s no hate in my game.

Fair enough. Its often difficult for us (the RVF audience) to make a helpful assessment based on limited info. You were there. We were not.

I personally try to avoid day time "dates" pre first bang at all costs. I think day "dates" should be reserved for post first bang. Do you think the "chemistry" might have been different if it had been more of classic night setting with drinks instead of sandwiches?

For me: Night time+alcohol+my place = >95% close rate on 2nd date.

Took years to land on the "formula" but I dont mess with that efficiency