Quote: (01-25-2018 06:41 PM)Cobra Wrote:
OP, regarding your situation, I spoke to a counselor at the Department of Human Services in the city I live around. He's a great guy and did an amazing job there. However, Social Welfare was a huge investment in his career for little return.
Couple things from him:
-The parents can come back and try to be "active" in the child's life. How hard they push can still affect the child and the organization still has to give them a chance.
-In order for the parents to really be taken away, there has to be a lot of factors, including multiple evaluations, psychological factors, and situational factors assessed before a judge looks at truly "taking that child away" into adoption. This is important in case the parents do come back.
-He also described that the organization will reach out as much as possible to other relatives (like your friend) to actively solicit help. Even after adoption, if that happens, generally, close siblings or relatives are encouraged to be a part of the child's life. You don't lose touch completely if this happens. He noted that even the adoptive parents are very open about it because it makes things easier for them.
I specifically asked him and he said he is happy to speak to you or your friend. He's a great resource. I would encourage you PM me and I can get you connected to him. I don't want him to know about the forum. So I'd like to chat first to create a decent backstory. That is, of course, if you're open to this. I'm happy to help.
My only ask of you in advance is contribute to the forum and be dedicated to it as much as possible in the long run and help any other men here that need it.
Thank you Cobra, I will definitely take you up on this offer.