BostonBMW, when I was in Asia, I had the same problem. Except I think this girl had a medical condition of some sort, because ONE FINGER made her cry out in pain. I liked her, but eventually had to bail and end our tryst. I told her to train herself and loosen up when we weren't together, but she didn't do it. I didn't think that was an unreasonable request, as it would be for both of our sakes.
It was a shame too, she was quite a sensual woman. But, can't have a relationship without sex.
It was a shame too, she was quite a sensual woman. But, can't have a relationship without sex.