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(02-28-2012 07:09 PM)Riker Wrote:  

Wait so thinking that we are all brothers and sisters on this planet and being generally loving to all is unattractive...

In America, yes.

Remember: Bitches be Crazy.

Also, the article is off on several points.

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The reason guys don’t want sluts is because they are easy to obtain. If you’re giving yourself out to everyone, there is no challenge. They want a challenge. Someone they need to chase after. It’s no accomplishment to get someone anyone could have.

This is the type of BS excuse women use to justify being difficult with men. It is also projection (women projecting what they like in men and assuming it is what men like in women).

The real reason men don't want sluts is because of biology, specifically the inherent fear of cuckolding.
Modern human has been on earth for 200,000+ years (millions if you count our close ancestors). Modern DNA testing (to guarantee a child is yours) and birth control have existed for about 50 years (and even then, only in wealthier parts of the first world).

How did you, as an average guy, work to ensure that your children were yours in the days before these modern conveniences existed?
You avoided sluts, that's how. You also developed a strong preference for sexual exclusity (read: "you're my slut, nobody else's") and you became competitive with other guys in order to keep them away from YOUR woman.

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But we still want it to be a challenge, so I guess that means we don’t want someone who is nice to us without making us work for it, or someone who is nice and caring to everyone.

Yes, you read that right.
To the average young American woman, being decent to people out of principle is a flaw. Being a naturally courteous person is something to be looked down upon here. It is a weakness.

Like I said: Bitches be crazy.

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Nice guys give their love too quickly, too easily, too blatantly, and to too many girls. It’s not attractive. Nothing is attractive about a girl who will sleep with anyone, or a guy who will love anyone. It’s not a good feeling to be on the arm of a guy who’s already had feelings for a million other girls, maybe even your friends. He’s probably been turned down by plenty of girls for this very reason.

This writer has made a couple of faulty assumptions here.

Firstly, she has assumed that any sign of decency by a nice guy (just being courteous or generally nice to a girl) is a sign of love. This is not true-some people are just nice, and can be nice to many girls who they do not intend to fuck.

Secondly, she has assumed that the love of the average "nice guy" is cheap and fleeting. This isn't true either-nice guys do not fall in love every 2 minutes. On the contrary, they have a tendency to do the opposite: they often catch "oneitis" for a single female and obsess over her, putting her on a pedestal and making her the single target of their affection for long periods of time.

You can argue that this is not desirable behavior either (it isn't), but either way the idea of "nice guy" love being cheap is a farce.

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The Asshole is like the prim and proper girl who doesn’t sleep with anyone. Love is in there somewhere, but they just seem to NEVER want to give it up. This is who we want. And why? Because if you get that thing from this person (love or sex, I think I’ll just use them interchangeably…they’re practically the same thing anyway, right? kidding), you get to feel AWESOME about yourself. This person doesn’t give it to just anyone. Something is special about you.

Look at that little guy run. This writer's rationalization hamster is moving on overdrive.

First, she assumed that the average nice-guy's love was cheap (wrong). Now she assumes that the average asshole's love is expensive. Considering how men of that nature have a tendency to have higher partner counts (contradicting notions of their higher exclusivity) and are often the men we label as "ladies men", "players", or "manwhores", this is just completely off.

Most guys who are good at bedding multiple women don't see each one as some sort of special snowflake at all. They can make it LOOK LIKE they do, but that is very rarely actually the case. They're just fucktoys and notches-end of story.

Only the women delude themselves into thinking otherwise.

The paradox we see here is remarkable. Women have somehow convinced themselves that only guys consistently willing to bother with them in a non-sexual capacity and generally devote large amounts of time just being kind to them (be gentlemanly, listen to their problems, help them when asked, and all the other "nice guyisms" you so often hear about) are actually the men that don't give a fuck about them.

On the other hand, they have convinced themselves that the men who are visibly rude, distant and display no devotion/affection whatsoever (aka "assholes") actually care more, and consider them "special".

Amazing.

As a former (thank god) "nice guy" myself, I'll say this to all the young dudes out there: show these women zero devotion or affection if you actually want to have a sexual relationship with them. Cleanse yourself of your gentlemanly principles and become a caveman; devolve.

Not only do women here demand this (this article is a perfect illustration of this mindset among the young American female), but they quite frankly deserve nothing more than this. Just give them what they want. Take it from me-you'll be better for it.

If being a good guy is something you just can't help, then by all means, stick to your principles. Just do not expect anything but contempt from these women. They know no better.