I have had some good online dates. We greet with a hug and have drinks in a booth at a restaurant, bar, or concert. The conversation is personal or emotional with kino. For example, we might share anecdotes about getting caught with drugs, or sex, or having crushes, or bad dates, etc. While the timing and logistics may not produce a bang, there is certainly kissing and high expectations for the future.
In other cases the whole thing feels stiff. The greeting involves a handshake. The conversation has an interview feel, like "Name your favorite movie". The woman hardly drinks. She seems cautious and apprehensive. She fails to clearly telegraph her desire for a parting kiss. The whole experience is just a lame waste like a typical Washington Post Date Lab.
It is easy to dismiss the woman as a cold fish. But sometimes she is hot and likes me. In some cases I have recovered on future dates.
I can tell when a weak date is happening, but don't know how to steer things better. I wonder if I should manage things better, being bolder, more physical, and setting a better tone. It's like we need a giant icebreaker. Is it possible to change a cold, lame, boring date into a warm, intimate, exciting experience? Or are some women just cold, or some couples just don't click, and I should just bail out?
In other cases the whole thing feels stiff. The greeting involves a handshake. The conversation has an interview feel, like "Name your favorite movie". The woman hardly drinks. She seems cautious and apprehensive. She fails to clearly telegraph her desire for a parting kiss. The whole experience is just a lame waste like a typical Washington Post Date Lab.
It is easy to dismiss the woman as a cold fish. But sometimes she is hot and likes me. In some cases I have recovered on future dates.
I can tell when a weak date is happening, but don't know how to steer things better. I wonder if I should manage things better, being bolder, more physical, and setting a better tone. It's like we need a giant icebreaker. Is it possible to change a cold, lame, boring date into a warm, intimate, exciting experience? Or are some women just cold, or some couples just don't click, and I should just bail out?