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(09-20-2017 09:30 AM)Horus Wrote:  

I have nothing but respect for anyone, man or woman, who reaches the south pole solo. She trecked for 3 months pulling a 200 pound sled in one of the most inhospitible places on Earth - how many of us could achieve that? This chick was one of the very few examples of women who are actually bad ass. I'd say that a canoe trip down the Amazon would be significantly less risky than a trek to the south pole, but extremely risky nonetheless. I'm sure she was fully aware of the risks and that there was a chance she wouldn't survive. This doesn't seem like an idealistic bimbo on a university gap year. She knew what she was doing and she had her reasons for embarking on such a risky adventure.

Yeah but yeah but yeah but.

Your point is taken. She achieved some stuff that would be impressive for anyone.

Look at her tweets though.



She got a warning sign like a flare gun in the face and ignored it.

So, no matter how gutsy she was, and especially for an older woman, she was either suicidal or fatally overconfident.

Even if you are in the Amazon, you still have to have your wits about you, your street smarts still have to be ready to kick in at a moment's notice.

To paraphrase self defense expert Marc "Animal" MacYoung, almost every deadly or violent situation comes with nearly explicit instructions for avoiding it.

If the methed out biker in the bar is telling you to shut up, all you have to do is shut up.

If you stumble into the wrong neighborhood and someone says, what are you doing here? Leave.

If you are at a party and a drunk dude invites you upstairs to look at his gun collection, don't do it.

Gavin De Becker said something similar about intuition. It is sending you signals all the time, and learning how to listen to them in all their variations can save your life:

Quote:

Trust that what causes alarm probably should, because when it comes to danger, intuition is always right in at least two important ways: 1. It is always in response to something. 2. It always has your best interest at heart.

Intuition might send any of several messengers to get your attention, and because they differ according to urgency, it is good to know the ranking. The intuitive signal of the highest order, the one with the greatest urgency, is fear; accordingly, it should always be listened to. The next level is apprehension, then suspicion, then hesitation, doubt, gut feelings, hunches and curiosity. There are also nagging feelings, persistent thoughts, physical sensations, wonder, and anxiety. Generally speaking, these are less urgent. By thinking about these signals with an open mind when they occur, you will learn how you communicate with yourself. There is another signal people rarely recognize, and that is dark humor. Humor, particularly dark humor, is a common way to communicate true concern without the risk of feeling silly afterwards, and without overtly showing fear.

http://fluidself.org/books/psychology/the-gift-of-fear/

Look at that bolded section then look at her breezy tweets.

Message ignored.

I don't know her and can't know why she personally didn't think things getting hairy was for some reason not a reason to scram?

I have known a lot of women who have done similar things and then had to be bailed out by men, and my normal conclusion is that for all their criticism of the male ego, the female ego is the real monster, and they don't really believe that anything bad can happen to them.

Not me. This is my journey/trip/adventure. Life owes it to me.

Women also brag about their intuition all the time which is kooky because they are so good at ignoring it when it doesn't fit in with their current desires and preferences.

Her tweets read to me like the last goodbye from someone who doesn't care to live anymore. It is sad that she threw her life away in such a casual way.

Image came up hard against intuition, and it looks like it won.

That is the takeaway for me here. I have taken to heart MacYoung's idea that violence usually comes with instructions for how to avoid it, and De Becker's advice to cultivate your intuition in all its guises.

And it has literally saved my life on a few occasions. I have my plans and my beliefs about myself and the world and my place in it, but if my intuition screams forget about your image, survive instead, I am going to listen.

I liked this video that was posted on the forum recently:

Dude got strong armed into giving up all his money on a recent trip there. I like it because as you listen to the audio, you can hear, if you are listening for it, countless warning signs, red flags, possible moments to eject, and this fool just keeps doing what he is doing because it is his trip to Paris.

He did everything wrong and still fate shone on him because all he lost was a few pounds. If you are bored, listen to it and ask yourself when you would have ejected, or if you would have even gotten into that pickle in the first place.

I liked it because it made me realize that my intuition is much better than it used to be. I was listening to it and saying to myself, don't do that, time to take a left, time to leave, time to run, and the guy never did.

Like the woman in the Amazon, whose narrative was "my adventure," this guy's narrative was "my trip to Paris," and no reality could make him reconsider.

And that used to be me.

Let me tell you about the time I was chased by a three card monte player and his confederates down the streets of Amsterdam because it was "my trip" and I wanted a picture to take home. Surely the criminals won't mind if you take a picture of them committing a crime, especially not when you need that picture to show your friends.

Or maybe I won't tell you about it. It is so far in my rear view mirror it isn't funny.

I wish there was a better word than narrative to use, because the SJWs use it so much, but narratives these are, and if you are committed enough to a narrative, it will become realer to you than the actual reality trying to smack you in the face and get your attention.

And narrative can kill.