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This was so easy approach it happnes very rarely. I approached girl standing with her friends with generic comment: "thats a interesting style." Girl immadiately introduce herself to me. I start talking to her and she suggested to go in some more quite place away from dancefloor. Perfect!
Nice start. Seemingly, you had it all working for you, it was more about "not doing anything wrong" than gaming per se.
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We had some nice conversation and finally exchanged number. Then we went back to ourfriends. Later on we met again and i took her at dancefloor. I started to escalate and finally I touched her cheek with my mouth. She "sorry" and left me on the dancefloor right away. WTF?
Geez. Very bad move: isolating and -asking for a number-. Going for the number is the very last resort, after everything else, and even then not sure if it is worthwhile, but it depends which kind of pickup evironment you are working on. Where I'm from (Brazil) picking a phone number is a completely needless endeavour. Even then, it is always a bad move, you should always push for the makeout. You completely lose momentum by just going for the number while still on the venue with her. No building up tension, no mystery.
Why did you kiss her on the cheek? Did she turn her face? Otherwise you should have gone straight for the lips. And when she said sorry, you should interpret that as BS and push it. She seemingly gave you IOIs, but you missed it out by not displaying enough dominance and being too passive.
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I found her later and told her she shouldnt left me at the dancefloor like that.
She replied she didnt like guys making out with her at dancefloor. I replied: "i am sorry that I am not a gay" She started to argue and eventually I apologized her for being too sexual. i made it in humorous manner but still. I said that i will make sure we keep distance and wont invade her personal space even if she begs me to do it.
Being "nice" and apologetical the way you did is a complete buzzkill and turn off. You let her trample you right there. That was the exact moment her legs completely sealed off.
"I'm sorry that I am not gay" is a bad line, the way I see it. Why would you have "gay" in your frame of reference? Don't say "I'm not gay", that just comes off wrong.
"Won't invade her personal space"? You just fell for her hysteria, you didn't pass her test. That was what exactly what she wanted to, but you just was too much of a "nice boy" and couldn't read between the lines. Deep down all she could want was for a MAN (not a boy) to trample over her resistances.
-Learn how to read between the lines.-
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I texed and called her next day and she didnt answer the phone.
I think that i made a mistake of apologizing her for being too sexual. I should stick to my guns no matter what.
Do you think is it a case?
Not surprising she didn't answer the phone. She lost all attraction (due to your "niceness" and decorum) and she had no mystery (due to you going for the phone instead of going for -her- while still hanging around) to get her imagination going.
Funny thing is, I doubt she (and all girls) even realise all those variables come by while screening for a guy.
But now you know.
Learn how to read between the lines. What a girl says she wants is -never- what she really wants and not even they are aware of that most of the time.
Did she see you hitting on other girls while in front of her? That would be a good move. Try it often.
And, of course... whenever you catch yourself obsessing and overthinking about one girl it screams:
-she's game over
-you should be approaching more, much more.
Keep it up!