This is a good post, and basically an "outline" of stuff newbies need to internalize when getting into "the game".
You touched on a lot of good points, especially the first one on rejection, it's so basic, but so true, yet hard for a lot of guys to overcome this hurdle, and de-program themselves from the automatic negative reactions from being rejected.
Sure, no one likes being rejected and sometimes when dealing with the hot American super-bitch you can be blown out in a bad way... But, you can't let it get to you and get in your head and affect your emotions. I remember G-Manifesto wrote to be a true player, you need to have "ice running through your veins" or something to that affect.
I have a handful of friends, that aren't even in the game, because they are too afraid of rejection. They basically just hang out with the other bros getting drunk, eye fucking the shit out of girls, talking about how hot they are, and how bad they want to fuck them. But, these guys never have the balls to approach, they fear rejection too much. Therefore they never get laid, and if they do it's once in a blue moon, when all the stars, and planets align just so.
Fear of rejection ties into approach anxiety, they are intertwined and interrelated, kind of like a "two headed monster", but not always the same exact beast. You can not care, whether or not a woman rejects you, but if you have too much anxiety, are too in your own head, over-analyzing, or worrying about what you're going to say, or that you can't think of anything to say, you're not even going to approach in the first place. Some guys are just too nervous and pussy out.
Which brings me to another important point, DO NOT use alcohol as a crutch, (maybe if you're a complete newb and you need a little liquid courage, I understand), but if you've been in the game for a minute, check your alcohol intake. I never quite understood this before, when Roosh posted about using alcohol as a crutch, but now I see it every time I go out.
Guys that need to down 3 or 4 mixed drinks before they can open their mouth to spit words. Not only does their game get sloppier, but their standards drop, and possibly get wiskey dick in the event that you do bring a girl home. Your game will jump leaps and bounds if you can step to women and spit proper game when only slightly buzzed or sober. Having a couple drinks may help your game, but at a certain point you cross a point where you get sloppy and it works against you.
I agree about the importance of body language, it will help you to read women much better, and understand when to escalate, pull back, or eject. I am currently half way through "The Definitive Book of Body Language", so far it's a good read, and I recommend it, but wouldn't necessarily say it's going to instantly turn you into a jedi or anything. Reading attraction signals is huge in the game, a lot of guys are completely oblivious to when a woman is interested in him and giving him signals, I know in the past girls gave me vibes, but I just had my head so far up my ass, I couldn't tell.
You're point # 4 is also crucial, kino is essential!! This is what sexualizes the interaction and makes it clear to the woman that you are interested in her and want to be more than friends, and that you're an experienced guy, who is capable of escalating the interaction. I have a friend who is such an asexual beta, he has no idea how to flirt, or how to sexualize an interaction with a woman. I always tell him he needs to work kino in with women he's talking to, but he has too much anxiety and always worries it won't be well received. He will hang out with a girl 2 or 3 times and never run kino, then act all surprised when he get's stuck in the friend zone, after being all androgynous and not showing his sexual interest or dominance.
9.) This is money, not something I've given too much thought to, but an excellent point, it makes sense, and I need to be more aware of this, and make sure too pull away first.
Lot's more I could add, good insights, basic stuff, for guys who've been in the game for a while, but it's always important to revisit the fundamentals. Any newbies or lurkers, internalize these points, because this is one of the best summarizes I've seen in a while.
You touched on a lot of good points, especially the first one on rejection, it's so basic, but so true, yet hard for a lot of guys to overcome this hurdle, and de-program themselves from the automatic negative reactions from being rejected.
Sure, no one likes being rejected and sometimes when dealing with the hot American super-bitch you can be blown out in a bad way... But, you can't let it get to you and get in your head and affect your emotions. I remember G-Manifesto wrote to be a true player, you need to have "ice running through your veins" or something to that affect.
I have a handful of friends, that aren't even in the game, because they are too afraid of rejection. They basically just hang out with the other bros getting drunk, eye fucking the shit out of girls, talking about how hot they are, and how bad they want to fuck them. But, these guys never have the balls to approach, they fear rejection too much. Therefore they never get laid, and if they do it's once in a blue moon, when all the stars, and planets align just so.
Fear of rejection ties into approach anxiety, they are intertwined and interrelated, kind of like a "two headed monster", but not always the same exact beast. You can not care, whether or not a woman rejects you, but if you have too much anxiety, are too in your own head, over-analyzing, or worrying about what you're going to say, or that you can't think of anything to say, you're not even going to approach in the first place. Some guys are just too nervous and pussy out.
Which brings me to another important point, DO NOT use alcohol as a crutch, (maybe if you're a complete newb and you need a little liquid courage, I understand), but if you've been in the game for a minute, check your alcohol intake. I never quite understood this before, when Roosh posted about using alcohol as a crutch, but now I see it every time I go out.
Guys that need to down 3 or 4 mixed drinks before they can open their mouth to spit words. Not only does their game get sloppier, but their standards drop, and possibly get wiskey dick in the event that you do bring a girl home. Your game will jump leaps and bounds if you can step to women and spit proper game when only slightly buzzed or sober. Having a couple drinks may help your game, but at a certain point you cross a point where you get sloppy and it works against you.
I agree about the importance of body language, it will help you to read women much better, and understand when to escalate, pull back, or eject. I am currently half way through "The Definitive Book of Body Language", so far it's a good read, and I recommend it, but wouldn't necessarily say it's going to instantly turn you into a jedi or anything. Reading attraction signals is huge in the game, a lot of guys are completely oblivious to when a woman is interested in him and giving him signals, I know in the past girls gave me vibes, but I just had my head so far up my ass, I couldn't tell.
You're point # 4 is also crucial, kino is essential!! This is what sexualizes the interaction and makes it clear to the woman that you are interested in her and want to be more than friends, and that you're an experienced guy, who is capable of escalating the interaction. I have a friend who is such an asexual beta, he has no idea how to flirt, or how to sexualize an interaction with a woman. I always tell him he needs to work kino in with women he's talking to, but he has too much anxiety and always worries it won't be well received. He will hang out with a girl 2 or 3 times and never run kino, then act all surprised when he get's stuck in the friend zone, after being all androgynous and not showing his sexual interest or dominance.
9.) This is money, not something I've given too much thought to, but an excellent point, it makes sense, and I need to be more aware of this, and make sure too pull away first.
Lot's more I could add, good insights, basic stuff, for guys who've been in the game for a while, but it's always important to revisit the fundamentals. Any newbies or lurkers, internalize these points, because this is one of the best summarizes I've seen in a while.