OP,
While I do not know your personal life and all the details of the relationship with your father I am more inclined to agree with the posters who point out your situation as rather unstable and tipping the scales towards conflict will ultimately backfire.
-From a moral/honor POV -if you care about those things- you DO owe your old man a lot of cash, which you *can* and probably should pay now that you are able to (imagine if you don't and one day you're in the gutter and get a subpoena demanding you pay the money).
-If you were willing to start with legal artillery you can do as TheBeast1 said and pull on him the costs of a lawyer since you can't pay one (which itself is another reason you should think about your current financial situation more than going gung ho on those bonds) or pay the lawyer with parts of the funds (which again,will bring down your total cash count to a level it wasnt worth it going through all that shit).
-Courts and lawyer consulting are soul consuming business,and stressful as fuck,I speak of experience*
If you're in school or in some profession that requires you have a somewhat clear mind in order to be able to absorb and reflect the lessons then you can kiss it good-bye because your brain will be fried from constantly preparing measures and countermeasures.
-Even if you didn't pay your old man off, 35k just isn't that much money in the non daily market (real estate,education,investment.etc) and can go *POOF!* a lot faster than many would think.
If you did pay, then you've only got half that money, which is even less (enough to buy a new car maybe?Im not familiar with US prices)
*I had a fallout with my father that involved his trying to get me arrested on false charges and ultimately a lawsuit -initiated by me- which ended up in an out-of-court arrangement (through the proccess I also fell from grace with my entire family -and despite the fact that all of us are quite adept at surviving alone, that hurt a lot.
I was about age 22 when I pulled that rabbit out of my ass.
Am I saying "suck it up to your dad"? Definitely not,establish clear borders but right now it seems the odds are stacked against you if you are planning to finnish school,get a place and move in with your girl.
Take advantage of the fact that you live rent-free or quasi rent-free and save/invest but don't saw your own legs off out of pride
(I did and it did not end well).
If your dad really is a douchebag, then your success should be your revenge on him,sweeter than any paycheck.
If he is genuinely concerned about your burning the money away, perhaps in time, your perspective might change and you may even thank him!
While I do not know your personal life and all the details of the relationship with your father I am more inclined to agree with the posters who point out your situation as rather unstable and tipping the scales towards conflict will ultimately backfire.
-From a moral/honor POV -if you care about those things- you DO owe your old man a lot of cash, which you *can* and probably should pay now that you are able to (imagine if you don't and one day you're in the gutter and get a subpoena demanding you pay the money).
-If you were willing to start with legal artillery you can do as TheBeast1 said and pull on him the costs of a lawyer since you can't pay one (which itself is another reason you should think about your current financial situation more than going gung ho on those bonds) or pay the lawyer with parts of the funds (which again,will bring down your total cash count to a level it wasnt worth it going through all that shit).
-Courts and lawyer consulting are soul consuming business,and stressful as fuck,I speak of experience*
If you're in school or in some profession that requires you have a somewhat clear mind in order to be able to absorb and reflect the lessons then you can kiss it good-bye because your brain will be fried from constantly preparing measures and countermeasures.
-Even if you didn't pay your old man off, 35k just isn't that much money in the non daily market (real estate,education,investment.etc) and can go *POOF!* a lot faster than many would think.
If you did pay, then you've only got half that money, which is even less (enough to buy a new car maybe?Im not familiar with US prices)
*I had a fallout with my father that involved his trying to get me arrested on false charges and ultimately a lawsuit -initiated by me- which ended up in an out-of-court arrangement (through the proccess I also fell from grace with my entire family -and despite the fact that all of us are quite adept at surviving alone, that hurt a lot.
I was about age 22 when I pulled that rabbit out of my ass.
Am I saying "suck it up to your dad"? Definitely not,establish clear borders but right now it seems the odds are stacked against you if you are planning to finnish school,get a place and move in with your girl.
Take advantage of the fact that you live rent-free or quasi rent-free and save/invest but don't saw your own legs off out of pride
(I did and it did not end well).
If your dad really is a douchebag, then your success should be your revenge on him,sweeter than any paycheck.
If he is genuinely concerned about your burning the money away, perhaps in time, your perspective might change and you may even thank him!
We move between light and shadow, mutually influencing and being influenced through shades of gray...