WoW!! 5000 Approaches! The sad and Painful truth about the Pick up industry...
01-20-2012, 04:56 PM
What I have noticed is that guys with this level of failure usually have one (or more) of three issues with them.
1) They are HORRIBLY incongruent. IMHO, this traces back to an extreme lack of self esteem. At their core, they don't believe that they deserve women like this so they ATTEMPT to mimic someone else's personality (Mystery, David DeAngelo, etc) it comes off as extraordinarily fake and desperate.
2) They refuse to escalate and close. These are the guys that think that if they keep running the lines the women will close them. They are so afraid of rejection that they don't even attempt OVERT sexual contact. This throws a bunch of them in the friend zone. Back in my early days, I was like this. I would run tight game with chicks, get obvious IOIs, but was too pussy to escalate. At one point, I was such a pussy that a chick had to physically grab my hands and place them on her breasts. She had been hinting at it for months, making it more and more blatant, but I didn't escalate. Once I learned to escalate, shit became MUCH MUCH easier.
3) They have what could best be described as a personality disorder. There are guys that I know for whom no amount of game/PUA training will be able to cover up the fact that there is something fucking wrong with them. They are just off. Not full blown crazy/psychotic/schizophrenic, but they just cannot relate with people.
I remember one guy like that who was complaining about how he hadn't gotten laid in years and had all of this resentment/hatred toward women in the US. I was going to just recommend that he go to Costa Rica or the Dominican Republic and screw some hookers, but the thought of him down there, and what he might do if he got fixated on one of those girls, scared me. I didn't want to put those girls in danger.
1) They are HORRIBLY incongruent. IMHO, this traces back to an extreme lack of self esteem. At their core, they don't believe that they deserve women like this so they ATTEMPT to mimic someone else's personality (Mystery, David DeAngelo, etc) it comes off as extraordinarily fake and desperate.
2) They refuse to escalate and close. These are the guys that think that if they keep running the lines the women will close them. They are so afraid of rejection that they don't even attempt OVERT sexual contact. This throws a bunch of them in the friend zone. Back in my early days, I was like this. I would run tight game with chicks, get obvious IOIs, but was too pussy to escalate. At one point, I was such a pussy that a chick had to physically grab my hands and place them on her breasts. She had been hinting at it for months, making it more and more blatant, but I didn't escalate. Once I learned to escalate, shit became MUCH MUCH easier.
3) They have what could best be described as a personality disorder. There are guys that I know for whom no amount of game/PUA training will be able to cover up the fact that there is something fucking wrong with them. They are just off. Not full blown crazy/psychotic/schizophrenic, but they just cannot relate with people.
I remember one guy like that who was complaining about how he hadn't gotten laid in years and had all of this resentment/hatred toward women in the US. I was going to just recommend that he go to Costa Rica or the Dominican Republic and screw some hookers, but the thought of him down there, and what he might do if he got fixated on one of those girls, scared me. I didn't want to put those girls in danger.