Preface: Bullying is bad in the sense of an innocent weaker kid getting beat up by a stronger kid for no reason whatsoever, only to take his lunch money and shove him in a locker.
However, in my experience growing up, I never saw that happen. It's only in movies.
I'm with Comte.
Anyone who got physically or verbally assaulted more or less had it coming. Either they instigated it themselves then played the victim, or they were so spineless that a simple, "You're being a fag" sent them crying to the principal's office. Then it made them a target in the future because everyone knew they were easy to mess with.
I stood up for the latter as I felt a lot of pity, but I took care of the former when I had to. For example, I played hockey my whole life. I was chubby in middle school and grew out before growing up. A little skinny kid on the team made a few jokes calling me fat in the locker room. If I would've taken it, I would've become the team bitch and had no respect from anyone. I challenged him to a locker box (helmet and gloves for those of you not aware) and beat the shit out of him. He started crying and didn't talk shit to my face for the rest of middle school. If he ever tried to talk shit in high school, I would respond with "Locker Box?". It always shut him up. Classic case of little man syndrome.
I ran into the same guy at a bar in college after not seeing him for years. I'm somewhat muscular and was wearing a polo. He started giving me shit about wearing too tight of a shirt. I never liked the guy, so I just pulled him aside away from my girl and said, "You say one more word and I'm going to knock your teeth out." He kissed my ass the rest of the night and tried to talk me up to the girl I was with. Total coward.
The guys who claim they were "bullied" usually resemble my acquaintance vs. the innocent nerd in the movies. If you were heavily bullied, it would be wise to take an introspective look at your actions growing up instead of those "evil bullies". I'm not saying you were necessarily wrong, and you could be an exception, but from my experiences I'd put money on the bully not being the only guilty party involved.
However, in my experience growing up, I never saw that happen. It's only in movies.
I'm with Comte.
Anyone who got physically or verbally assaulted more or less had it coming. Either they instigated it themselves then played the victim, or they were so spineless that a simple, "You're being a fag" sent them crying to the principal's office. Then it made them a target in the future because everyone knew they were easy to mess with.
I stood up for the latter as I felt a lot of pity, but I took care of the former when I had to. For example, I played hockey my whole life. I was chubby in middle school and grew out before growing up. A little skinny kid on the team made a few jokes calling me fat in the locker room. If I would've taken it, I would've become the team bitch and had no respect from anyone. I challenged him to a locker box (helmet and gloves for those of you not aware) and beat the shit out of him. He started crying and didn't talk shit to my face for the rest of middle school. If he ever tried to talk shit in high school, I would respond with "Locker Box?". It always shut him up. Classic case of little man syndrome.
I ran into the same guy at a bar in college after not seeing him for years. I'm somewhat muscular and was wearing a polo. He started giving me shit about wearing too tight of a shirt. I never liked the guy, so I just pulled him aside away from my girl and said, "You say one more word and I'm going to knock your teeth out." He kissed my ass the rest of the night and tried to talk me up to the girl I was with. Total coward.
The guys who claim they were "bullied" usually resemble my acquaintance vs. the innocent nerd in the movies. If you were heavily bullied, it would be wise to take an introspective look at your actions growing up instead of those "evil bullies". I'm not saying you were necessarily wrong, and you could be an exception, but from my experiences I'd put money on the bully not being the only guilty party involved.