Quote: (10-04-2016 12:19 PM)XPQ22 Wrote:
. A guy just randomly talking to another stranger on the street or in the grocery store is considered pretty damn socially unacceptable; most men seem uncomfortable interacting with people outside their social circle, much less women.
The most common result of a daygame approach is simply the woman being puzzled as to why you're talking with her and not really knowing what to do. I sometimes do a little better trying to engage women in coffee shops, etc. and while I get the sense that they're friendly and might even meet up for a date if I hit them up on Tinder first, they're clearly pretty uncomfortable with the "unscripted" nature of the interaction that's going down.
Several women I've dated around here tell me the same thing: "It's weird when guys randomly talk to me" "it's creepy when some guy in a store tries to start talking to me" "I don't really know how to talk to people I'm not friends with" etc.
I think we have a similar problem in the UK. The approach anxiety is not fabricated here - there are genuine social conventions you are breaking by going and talking to people you 'have no business' talking to. Its almost rude to do it.
Chicks in both places have their lives nicely compartmentalized such that they don't need to make the effort when they're out on the high street or at work. The more European style of dressing and looking nice all the time isn't really as prevalent here. I hate this country.