Quote: (09-29-2016 07:36 PM)jcrew247 Wrote:
Maybe on the 2nd date, the girls lose interest or you are turning them off somehow.
Do you have a job? Do you have money? Are you looking for a hookup or serious relationship? How is your physical appearance? Would there be any reason that these girls would discover something about you and dislike you and not want to see you again? Maybe the 2nd dates are in bad places or noisy places.
I don't know if its only kino. Perhaps its a personality differences. What types of girls are you dating, perhaps they don't think you have compatible lifestyles.
I swear to god I dont know what I'm doing or not doing that turns them off.
To answer your questions here are my answers:
- Right now I dont have a job and am currently looking.
- I do have money so thats no issue.
- My physical appearance is fine: good build, cool hairstyle, cool clothes.
- 2nd dates are in very cool, cozy and classy places like lounges.
- I dont know why these girls would not want to see me again. This is a big mystery to me and one can be explained as a curse.
- The types of girls I date are foreign european or asian (not american, nor americanized, thank god!), aged 20 - 30. I'm in my mid 40s btw. They have jobs and/or go to school. Theyre not loud or street types. Theyre serious and are usually new to USA.
One other thing I need to say and I think this may help you help me. I do remember meeting a girl 2 years ago at a cafe. We exchanged numbers but we never had the chance of meeting up because she was out of state. But we kept in contact with each other. For 6 months we teased and challenged each other over text without seeing each other. Finally after 6 months she returns to my state and we decide to meet for the first time since I met her at the cafe. She was very excited to see me again. We met up at a lounge and talked. No kino whatsoever. I did whatever I could to generate IOIs from her and when I didnt get any it made me nervous and a bit beta. After the date she texted me and said that I'm not the man I was hoping for.
So maybe this bit of info can help you and the other guys in here decipher whats going on in my life and hopefully your feedback can help me in turn. Thanks.