I need to start this log and hold myself accountable. I've been doing better but need to keep pushing.
I am getting near 100 notches but still don't approach so much at night even, though some times I'll number close a chica that my friend opens. Too often I try to wait for the perfect moment rather than approaching instantly, though some times I will definitely open a girl as soon as I spot her if she's my type, by herself, makes eye contact, etc.
I've also never been one to go out much, so just by going out more recently with my wingman and being around girls, good things happen. This is a no-brainer but I just need to be more pro-active at being around women.
Also, often I will forget to ask for number or not be aggressive enough in doing so. Even when networking (for work or personal reasons), or meeting dudes, whomever, I will forget to get contact info of cool people. I need to improve this.
Chocolate Cuban - "Hi, where are you from?" Night game. Number close. Bars are closed and we are swinging for the fences. I see two black girls who don't seem African-American based on the way they dress and body language (I think maybe Colombian) so I approach and just ask where they're from. Bust out the Spanish when she says Cuba, the other is from Nigeria. Girl has a crazy body and ass, but face is busted. Don't remember everything, my friend kept walking by and smacking me in the ass while I talk to them. I say yo we should dance salsa cubana and I give her a twirl. I get her number and Facebook, we've been texting. She says she gave me her number because I was different, didn't just say "you're hot give me your number" like most guys do and I seemed interested in her (which I was since she's Cuban and that's interesting to me).
Brazilian 8 and Peruvian - "Excuse me, how Persian are you?" Night game. Bars just closed, I tell my buddy, 'watch this' and I ask them if they're Persian, which I thought they were. They defiantly say noooo, Brazilian and Peruvian. I start with my basic Portuguese, then she tries to speak Spanish but my Spanish is better, she laughs at what I'm spitting and starts imitating me but adding 'mamita' in there. Brazilian is an 8 but shit tests me constantly, her Peruvian friend drunkenly says to her, "stop being so meaaan to them" Turns out Brazilian is engaged, but says my buddy and I are her type were she single. Their Ubers kept canceling and we almost took them to my buddy's place within walking distance, but then their cab showed up. I basically forgot out the Peruvian bc she had zero ass, but probably could have smashed or got a number if turned attention her way.
Latina with hazel/green eyes - "Hi, I'm Kaiser Soze" Night game. Bars are closed and I'm walking to car. Girl by herself is walking straight at me. I semi-stop and introduce myself, shaking her hand. She's smiling and says, "I dunno I've had trouble with 'Kaiser Sozes' before" while I'm holding her hand as she passes and rotates to face me. I say, "Oh I'm definitely trouble" but her group of friends catch up with her and in a wave carry her away, this short drunk friend of hers says 'fooock that duuude let's go bla bla'. While I didn't chase or anything, I'm sure I could have done something to prevent this if I acted more quickly. I laugh and head to my ride.
Bachelorette lady - "Where's your friend?" Night game. Bars are closed and just standing around bored with my buddies. I see this woman in her late 30s or early 40s who was in a bachelorette party. Earlier they were at the same bar and walking around with this 4 foot male blow up doll with an erection, they had asked me to take their group photo at one bar earlier. I ask where the blow up "friend" was, where the bride-to-be was, etc. Conversation fizzled. I wasn't into this chick but was just being social.
Mexican - "Hi, where are you from?" Night game. I walk into bar, spot this girl with 2 other chicas who look Colombian/Latina, go straight up to her and just ask where she's from. She's from Monterrey, so we speak Spanish talk about Mexico, I tell her I am half Mexican from Mexico City and things are going "okay". One friend leaves so it's just her and shorter girl. I talk to both of them briefly, but then short one tries to take her some where. She says she'll be back. They go to bathroom but then don't come back. I should have neutralized shorter girl better or got my wing to help out.
Blonde and hot friend - "Hi, I'm Kaiser Soze" - Night game. Blonde (a 5-6) is just staring at me. I go up and introduce myself. I see her looking over to her friend, who is shortish but an 8, so I bring blonde over with me to introduce myself. Shorter girl and I click when she finds out that I grew up in X country. We talk about that for a few minutes, but she is tipsy and with a hand motion accidentally knocks my drink out of my hand. She starts getting cash to buy me another one, but for some reason I say no no it's ok and I offer to buy HER a drink as well. Eventually, we get drinks, I've pissed off the original blonde girl for ditching her, and I lose the short girl after talking to my buddy. Fuck. 10-30 mins later I eventually find short girl while she's looking at her phone. I try to reopen her but she won't even look up. I don't know if she knew who I was but I wasn't gonna beg or something. I've never had a good result with purchasing a drink for a chica in a bar, mostly from tipping her over to TOO drunk.
Curvy black girl - "Hi, how are you? I'm Kaiser Soze" Number close. Night game. My buddy introduces me to some dude since we both speak the same language, then I eject and approach this short but curvy black girl standing with her friend. Turns out her parents are from South Africa. I play my photographer angle and show her my business card and Instagram, saying we should do a shoot. She's not really someone I would normally shoot so I don't know why I said this. Either way, I get her number and we've been texting.
Latina - "Are you Bolivian?" Night game. Some chica (7.5-8) in a group is kind of standing on the outskirts and checking her phone. She looks like some chicas I saw in the lowlands of Bolivia, so I approach and ask. I think she turns out to be Mexican and Italian. For like 5-10 mins we talk about travel, Italy, speaking Spanish and other shit. Eventually, her group starts to leave the bar and a friend (a chocolate 9, I should have opened her instead) of hers grabs her hand. I kind of freeze. She kind of laughs and says, "Bye Kaiserrr". It hits me later that she remembered my name and this is a good sign. I should have tried to get her number before that point regardless.
I will log my next 100 approaches here.
Background
Check my Colombia datasheets for background, but while I'm not a beginner with game, I've never been one to approach much. Growing up, girls would approach me/hit on me more than the other way around (which might be the origin of my issue), and in recent years I've been relying too much on online/Tinder game. However, this has given me great practice to have a good conversion/closing rate of first date bangs, improve my text game, etc. But online game is too easy to the point that it's boring, and the quality is definitely lower than from approaching hot girls in the street, club, etc.I am getting near 100 notches but still don't approach so much at night even, though some times I'll number close a chica that my friend opens. Too often I try to wait for the perfect moment rather than approaching instantly, though some times I will definitely open a girl as soon as I spot her if she's my type, by herself, makes eye contact, etc.
I've also never been one to go out much, so just by going out more recently with my wingman and being around girls, good things happen. This is a no-brainer but I just need to be more pro-active at being around women.
Also, often I will forget to ask for number or not be aggressive enough in doing so. Even when networking (for work or personal reasons), or meeting dudes, whomever, I will forget to get contact info of cool people. I need to improve this.
Recent Approaches
My wingmen/friends tell me to just say "Hi I'm Kaiser Soze" which has been working okay recently.Chocolate Cuban - "Hi, where are you from?" Night game. Number close. Bars are closed and we are swinging for the fences. I see two black girls who don't seem African-American based on the way they dress and body language (I think maybe Colombian) so I approach and just ask where they're from. Bust out the Spanish when she says Cuba, the other is from Nigeria. Girl has a crazy body and ass, but face is busted. Don't remember everything, my friend kept walking by and smacking me in the ass while I talk to them. I say yo we should dance salsa cubana and I give her a twirl. I get her number and Facebook, we've been texting. She says she gave me her number because I was different, didn't just say "you're hot give me your number" like most guys do and I seemed interested in her (which I was since she's Cuban and that's interesting to me).
Brazilian 8 and Peruvian - "Excuse me, how Persian are you?" Night game. Bars just closed, I tell my buddy, 'watch this' and I ask them if they're Persian, which I thought they were. They defiantly say noooo, Brazilian and Peruvian. I start with my basic Portuguese, then she tries to speak Spanish but my Spanish is better, she laughs at what I'm spitting and starts imitating me but adding 'mamita' in there. Brazilian is an 8 but shit tests me constantly, her Peruvian friend drunkenly says to her, "stop being so meaaan to them" Turns out Brazilian is engaged, but says my buddy and I are her type were she single. Their Ubers kept canceling and we almost took them to my buddy's place within walking distance, but then their cab showed up. I basically forgot out the Peruvian bc she had zero ass, but probably could have smashed or got a number if turned attention her way.
Latina with hazel/green eyes - "Hi, I'm Kaiser Soze" Night game. Bars are closed and I'm walking to car. Girl by herself is walking straight at me. I semi-stop and introduce myself, shaking her hand. She's smiling and says, "I dunno I've had trouble with 'Kaiser Sozes' before" while I'm holding her hand as she passes and rotates to face me. I say, "Oh I'm definitely trouble" but her group of friends catch up with her and in a wave carry her away, this short drunk friend of hers says 'fooock that duuude let's go bla bla'. While I didn't chase or anything, I'm sure I could have done something to prevent this if I acted more quickly. I laugh and head to my ride.
Bachelorette lady - "Where's your friend?" Night game. Bars are closed and just standing around bored with my buddies. I see this woman in her late 30s or early 40s who was in a bachelorette party. Earlier they were at the same bar and walking around with this 4 foot male blow up doll with an erection, they had asked me to take their group photo at one bar earlier. I ask where the blow up "friend" was, where the bride-to-be was, etc. Conversation fizzled. I wasn't into this chick but was just being social.
Mexican - "Hi, where are you from?" Night game. I walk into bar, spot this girl with 2 other chicas who look Colombian/Latina, go straight up to her and just ask where she's from. She's from Monterrey, so we speak Spanish talk about Mexico, I tell her I am half Mexican from Mexico City and things are going "okay". One friend leaves so it's just her and shorter girl. I talk to both of them briefly, but then short one tries to take her some where. She says she'll be back. They go to bathroom but then don't come back. I should have neutralized shorter girl better or got my wing to help out.
Blonde and hot friend - "Hi, I'm Kaiser Soze" - Night game. Blonde (a 5-6) is just staring at me. I go up and introduce myself. I see her looking over to her friend, who is shortish but an 8, so I bring blonde over with me to introduce myself. Shorter girl and I click when she finds out that I grew up in X country. We talk about that for a few minutes, but she is tipsy and with a hand motion accidentally knocks my drink out of my hand. She starts getting cash to buy me another one, but for some reason I say no no it's ok and I offer to buy HER a drink as well. Eventually, we get drinks, I've pissed off the original blonde girl for ditching her, and I lose the short girl after talking to my buddy. Fuck. 10-30 mins later I eventually find short girl while she's looking at her phone. I try to reopen her but she won't even look up. I don't know if she knew who I was but I wasn't gonna beg or something. I've never had a good result with purchasing a drink for a chica in a bar, mostly from tipping her over to TOO drunk.
Curvy black girl - "Hi, how are you? I'm Kaiser Soze" Number close. Night game. My buddy introduces me to some dude since we both speak the same language, then I eject and approach this short but curvy black girl standing with her friend. Turns out her parents are from South Africa. I play my photographer angle and show her my business card and Instagram, saying we should do a shoot. She's not really someone I would normally shoot so I don't know why I said this. Either way, I get her number and we've been texting.
Latina - "Are you Bolivian?" Night game. Some chica (7.5-8) in a group is kind of standing on the outskirts and checking her phone. She looks like some chicas I saw in the lowlands of Bolivia, so I approach and ask. I think she turns out to be Mexican and Italian. For like 5-10 mins we talk about travel, Italy, speaking Spanish and other shit. Eventually, her group starts to leave the bar and a friend (a chocolate 9, I should have opened her instead) of hers grabs her hand. I kind of freeze. She kind of laughs and says, "Bye Kaiserrr". It hits me later that she remembered my name and this is a good sign. I should have tried to get her number before that point regardless.
Conclusions
My openers and conversation topics are undoubtedly a function of my international life and my personal curiosities, I basically approach someone who looks foreign and try to connect on that level because that's where my advantage is. But I need to use more observational and universal openers. No drunk slut is going to care about most of my typical convo topics, I am overthinking a lot of this. I have actually had more SNLs from work conferences (maybe like 3) than from drunk sluts in clubs (0), so I need to do a better job at connecting on their level. I will log my next 100 approaches here.