Thanks for popping in, Gorgiass.
Yeah, the waiting for her to pull her hand away was the first time i've ever done that. I always pull away first. But that night, i'd just finished reading '60 days of challenge', and that was one of his pieces of advice. It's just such a headache when nearly every single piece of advice seem to conflict with someone elses!! However, in this instance, i'm gonna go with my instincts, and say that you're right and he's wrong. Even when I read it in the book, I though ''Hmmm....that seems a bit creepy!''
Regarding the girl holding her shoes. Again, my instincts would be to just more or less laugh off her aggression/hostility, but a few people have mentioned that I need to ''deal with people emotional state'' and not just plough through. I should also mention that that same girl seemed to nearly get in a fight with someone else soon after what happened with me. I almost think any comeback, even one is playful as your (i've come for your shoes, missy!) could have got me in trouble! Not sure whether you read my earlier field report where I nearly got into a fist fight with the friend of the girl to whom I simply said ''Hi, I like your hat!'' It's 'chav' central where I live!
I'll try to remember to make more statements as opposed to asking questions. It's something that I was already of course aware of, but I guess I slip back into habbit, and everything I think i've 'learnt' can 'go out of the window' in the heat of the moment. Like Mike Tyson saying 'everyone's got a plan, until they get punched in the face!!''
Interesting thing you mention is 'energy'. Something i've been thinking about recently.
I've probably tried a mixture of things so far, just naturally, without really thinkingabout it. Sometimes high energ, sometimes low.
In general from the various books i've read, the consensus seems to be to 'come in with more energy than them'
However, you've probably guessed correctly in that I probably tend to look too enthusiastic at times if i think about it. I'll try to remember to keep my eyebrows down more. I have deep-set eyes naturally, so shouldn't be hard.
You're also probably right in that when I've came in with high energy, i've 'failed to back it up'. I've said that myself, i think. I guess it stems from still, even now and after having read lots of books and made a fair few approaches, not really knowing what to talk about and how to have a 'fun' interaction without boring the girl.
Sometimes, certain canned openers seem to have lead to much more fun conversations, but I struggle to inject fun if we start off with just a typical socia exchange opener' (''hi - what's up?'' kind of thing)
Yeah, the waiting for her to pull her hand away was the first time i've ever done that. I always pull away first. But that night, i'd just finished reading '60 days of challenge', and that was one of his pieces of advice. It's just such a headache when nearly every single piece of advice seem to conflict with someone elses!! However, in this instance, i'm gonna go with my instincts, and say that you're right and he's wrong. Even when I read it in the book, I though ''Hmmm....that seems a bit creepy!''
Regarding the girl holding her shoes. Again, my instincts would be to just more or less laugh off her aggression/hostility, but a few people have mentioned that I need to ''deal with people emotional state'' and not just plough through. I should also mention that that same girl seemed to nearly get in a fight with someone else soon after what happened with me. I almost think any comeback, even one is playful as your (i've come for your shoes, missy!) could have got me in trouble! Not sure whether you read my earlier field report where I nearly got into a fist fight with the friend of the girl to whom I simply said ''Hi, I like your hat!'' It's 'chav' central where I live!
I'll try to remember to make more statements as opposed to asking questions. It's something that I was already of course aware of, but I guess I slip back into habbit, and everything I think i've 'learnt' can 'go out of the window' in the heat of the moment. Like Mike Tyson saying 'everyone's got a plan, until they get punched in the face!!''
Interesting thing you mention is 'energy'. Something i've been thinking about recently.
I've probably tried a mixture of things so far, just naturally, without really thinkingabout it. Sometimes high energ, sometimes low.
In general from the various books i've read, the consensus seems to be to 'come in with more energy than them'
However, you've probably guessed correctly in that I probably tend to look too enthusiastic at times if i think about it. I'll try to remember to keep my eyebrows down more. I have deep-set eyes naturally, so shouldn't be hard.
You're also probably right in that when I've came in with high energy, i've 'failed to back it up'. I've said that myself, i think. I guess it stems from still, even now and after having read lots of books and made a fair few approaches, not really knowing what to talk about and how to have a 'fun' interaction without boring the girl.
Sometimes, certain canned openers seem to have lead to much more fun conversations, but I struggle to inject fun if we start off with just a typical socia exchange opener' (''hi - what's up?'' kind of thing)