First things first, you'll need to focus on being able to talk to people. When you first jump into picking up girl, it's a lot like learning any new kind of skill. There are many facets of the skill that need to be developed, and there's almost too much information and it's hard to choose one thing. For now, I think you'd benefit more from learning to carry a conversation rather than dealing with approach anxiety, reading body language, seducing a girl, etc. any given time you interact with a girl. When you get the basics of a conversation down, it'll take off more pressure when you start developing in another area.
Where are you starting from socially? For me, I didn't talk to anyone throughout middle school and high school. No conversations, and I couldn't even make eye contact with anyone. I was at square one when I first began talking again to the point where I might as well have been socially retarded. However, I kept at it, and I've improved quite a bit since then. Depending on where you're at, you can probably progress even faster especially in socially abundant environment like college.
Keep in mind, you can have an amazing conversation with one person, and then the next one you talk to there's nothing there. No matter what you say or what they talk about, the conversation goes stagnant and dies. This goes for men and women alike. Sometimes you can strike a moment where this changes and you two make a connection if you stick it out long enough or hit the right flow when talking. You can make things easier on yourself by finding people who want to talk and learn from them by the how they talk and what they talk about.
Luckily, you're just starting college so you'll be with plenty of nervous and confused freshman. The gist of most conversations on the first week or so will be about what you're majoring, what classes you got, and so on.
If I keep typing I'll end up with a wall of text, so I'll stop here. Feel free to ask me any questions if you're wondering about something in particular.
Where are you starting from socially? For me, I didn't talk to anyone throughout middle school and high school. No conversations, and I couldn't even make eye contact with anyone. I was at square one when I first began talking again to the point where I might as well have been socially retarded. However, I kept at it, and I've improved quite a bit since then. Depending on where you're at, you can probably progress even faster especially in socially abundant environment like college.
Keep in mind, you can have an amazing conversation with one person, and then the next one you talk to there's nothing there. No matter what you say or what they talk about, the conversation goes stagnant and dies. This goes for men and women alike. Sometimes you can strike a moment where this changes and you two make a connection if you stick it out long enough or hit the right flow when talking. You can make things easier on yourself by finding people who want to talk and learn from them by the how they talk and what they talk about.
Luckily, you're just starting college so you'll be with plenty of nervous and confused freshman. The gist of most conversations on the first week or so will be about what you're majoring, what classes you got, and so on.
If I keep typing I'll end up with a wall of text, so I'll stop here. Feel free to ask me any questions if you're wondering about something in particular.
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