Rapport isn't comfort, and you don't need rapport to bang.
But you do need it to screen. Screen for her logistics, dtf, LTR, and red flags. In better environments, you can get some of those out of the way before you flirt heavy.
With regard to rapport
She needs to be unguarded to tell you stuff that will put her in the one night stand only slot, or the harem box. Like in the rapport stage, if she lets slip that she cheats on her boyfriends - well you're not going to have a different experience if you become her boyfriend. I'd not react and encourage her more to speak (and mentally relive) on those exploits.
If you have the attraction, then the comfort, you can move her out of the venue. Good solid game can keep her motivated while you chat at the next location. (I've never understood guys that HAVE to get a girl straight from the club to their living room. Logistics doesn't mean just in time delivery)
So in a practical sense
- attract mostly non verbal
- build trust mostly non verbal
- trust aka comfort keeps building as you isolate her at the club, take her outside for a smoke or to get some air, and more trust builds as you say let's get a slice of pizza up the street, I'll bring you right back.
As the trust builds, because nothing bad is happening in her time with a cool dude - you're moving her to a quieter environment.
As the volume goes down, then you can start to build rapport. Within that bubble of attraction, trust, and rapport you can than delve into what makes her tick.
In general, building rapport can happen at any time, but prior to attraction, it turns you into the friend, not the lover.
The real issue, is having the balls to generate attraction non verbally, because it requires a fair amount of courage to really step to a girl in a direct fashion.
Verbal direct is ten times easier because it doesn't violate the social contract as much as getting into a girl's personal space and putting your paws on her. And keep in mind, most new players try to rapport their way into pussy like square guys.
When you watch the frat boys sneak attack grind sorority chicks on the dance floor, that's basically what's being attempted. They're going direct in a non verbal fashion. Rarely have I seen that work. But I've seen it work.
WIA
But you do need it to screen. Screen for her logistics, dtf, LTR, and red flags. In better environments, you can get some of those out of the way before you flirt heavy.
With regard to rapport
She needs to be unguarded to tell you stuff that will put her in the one night stand only slot, or the harem box. Like in the rapport stage, if she lets slip that she cheats on her boyfriends - well you're not going to have a different experience if you become her boyfriend. I'd not react and encourage her more to speak (and mentally relive) on those exploits.
If you have the attraction, then the comfort, you can move her out of the venue. Good solid game can keep her motivated while you chat at the next location. (I've never understood guys that HAVE to get a girl straight from the club to their living room. Logistics doesn't mean just in time delivery)
So in a practical sense
- attract mostly non verbal
- build trust mostly non verbal
- trust aka comfort keeps building as you isolate her at the club, take her outside for a smoke or to get some air, and more trust builds as you say let's get a slice of pizza up the street, I'll bring you right back.
As the trust builds, because nothing bad is happening in her time with a cool dude - you're moving her to a quieter environment.
As the volume goes down, then you can start to build rapport. Within that bubble of attraction, trust, and rapport you can than delve into what makes her tick.
In general, building rapport can happen at any time, but prior to attraction, it turns you into the friend, not the lover.
The real issue, is having the balls to generate attraction non verbally, because it requires a fair amount of courage to really step to a girl in a direct fashion.
Verbal direct is ten times easier because it doesn't violate the social contract as much as getting into a girl's personal space and putting your paws on her. And keep in mind, most new players try to rapport their way into pussy like square guys.
When you watch the frat boys sneak attack grind sorority chicks on the dance floor, that's basically what's being attempted. They're going direct in a non verbal fashion. Rarely have I seen that work. But I've seen it work.
WIA