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(05-28-2016 03:25 AM)Phoenix Wrote:  

It's worth remembering that the world doesn't revolve around ourselves. Just because your family has been great, doesn't mean everyone else has lived through the same family experience as you. It is very self-centered to talk as though your experience is the norm, and thus everyone else's criticism of family is unfounded, by ignoring the variety of what others have lived.

In general, and this is no knock on them, it is very hard for people with good families to have sympathy for people who don't. A solid foundation in life profoundly shapes who you are, and gives you strength and resiliency that other people would kill for.

Because it is all you have known, it is hard to see that the complaints of others are not just personal whinings, but a response to an absence in their lives that you have not had.

It is kind of like a couple of white people sitting around debating racism, and talking over any black dude who tries to get a word in.

A fish who has always swam in the water happily has trouble really understanding the deep effect on the certainties of existence that come from getting caught by a fisherman, left gasping on the deck for a few minutes, and then tossed back in the lake.