^-- even without realizing it, you're hitting emotional buttons at some point during your process, when that process works.
Start to become conscious of it: notice when she suddenly opens up and becomes more comfortable, notice when she bites her lip and seems turned on, notice when your banter is taking an "us vs. them" flavor, or when you tell that one story that gets you riled up and passionate, and she reacts.
As you become aware of it, you can start to focus less on the process and more on enjoying yourself + making sure to hit those buttons.
It's like writing a song -- intro, verse, (pre-chorus,) chorus, verse, (pre-chorus,) chorus, bridge, chorus, out...
You don't have to be thinking about music theory and "process" to know you've been vamping on the verse for too long, time to rise up to the chorus!
Start to become conscious of it: notice when she suddenly opens up and becomes more comfortable, notice when she bites her lip and seems turned on, notice when your banter is taking an "us vs. them" flavor, or when you tell that one story that gets you riled up and passionate, and she reacts.
As you become aware of it, you can start to focus less on the process and more on enjoying yourself + making sure to hit those buttons.
It's like writing a song -- intro, verse, (pre-chorus,) chorus, verse, (pre-chorus,) chorus, bridge, chorus, out...
You don't have to be thinking about music theory and "process" to know you've been vamping on the verse for too long, time to rise up to the chorus!