Quote: (05-22-2016 03:17 PM)Tapestry Wrote:
I've been experiencing this problem for a while, but it's become enough of a glaring pattern to warrant asking for help. The problem is women losing attraction very predictably, usually 1-2 weeks into an interaction. I have no problem opening women, I often get opened myself due to physical attractiveness. I have a serious flaking problem combined with a serious ghosting problem 1-2 weeks into any semi-successful interactions. In the past year I have probably had this happen 30-40 times. But focusing on just the past month alone, after I had made the decision to go exclusively for better looking women, it's becoming a real pain.
- About a month ago met an 8. She asked for my number. Met me the next night for drinks. Made out in her car and she wanted us to make dinner at my place the next day. She specifically told me to text her tomorrow. The next day she went full ghost, haven't heard from or seen her since.
- 1 week ago, met a 27 yr unmarried 7 through a job I was doing. Got her number and set up happy hour thing. She texted to cancel 30 minutes prior with the excuse that she had to travel in 4 days.
- Less than a week ago, met up with a 9 for dinner, drinking. Made out with her multiple times and texted her throughout the week. By this weekend, she's gone full ghost. Lost her somewhere between Tuesday when she was full on making out with me sober and Saturday when she would barely kiss me. Even though she half hearted said we should go to [somewhere specific] soon, I could tell the typical pattern was in place.
- Same timeframe as the last girl, met for happy hour with another 8, went well, no escalation involved though. Continued to text/snap and also by Saturday she had gone full on ghost.
- Today, set up a brunch thing. Girl canceled 1 hour before saying she had just got up and wouldn't make it.
My main questions are: is it typical in this day and age to have a 90% flake/ghost rate on women who have been successfully opened or have even opened you? It seems to me I'm doing something drastically wrong. It's hard for me to translate texting into meetups and exceedingly hard to translate an initial meetup into more meetups. I think I am generating attention on looks alone, am interesting enough initially, but quickly bore women with lack of personality, small talk, texting skills, possibly being too nice and predictable, or "safe." Initial texts are enthusiastic and then start to dwindle where I'm doing all the initiating with fewer and fewer responses. If I didn't continue to reliably open 2-3 women per week I would have no social life with the opposite sex at all. I know it could be worse because some guys have trouble getting this amount of opens on a regular basis. But I can't help but think this amount of disinterest is not the norm. Any advice appreciated.
You are not closing. I recently jumped on the dating game and after a couple of girls started ghosting on me, and consulting with the heavy tanks in the forum I found out the issue. Woman nowadays need to be closed, aka fucked, on the first date if not, the possibility of ghosting increases considerably. Take Cake, look for my thread called, WTF ... No second Date.