I know this is a forum of committed bachelors and players but since a lot of older guys on here have been married or are married, and a lot of guys get player burnout and want to settle down, I thought I would ask.
Is it advisable to sleep with as many women as you can/want until you get “player burnout” or get a girl that is “good enough” even though you haven’t slept around much but would like to?
The reason I ask it that I am 30 and, despite putting in a lot of effort in approaching/game/fitness when I was in my 20s, I was not successful with women. I attribute that in large part to living in a bad dating environment.
Anyway, I recently met a girl in her 28 from another country and we’ve been dating for a few months. She has a great personality, and although I have gone on dates with many women that look better than her, she looks good enough for me. She actually has a feminine, caring personality that is in stark contrast to a lot of women in this city. She is one of the few women I have met that is marriage material.
My problem is, despite wanting to, I never banged a lot of women. My notch count is 10, which is even less than what it seems since I banged only a couple of those women more than once. Hence, I have constant thoughts about banging other women.
Moreover, although I personally haven’t experienced much change in my dating life yet, I hear that the 30s and 40s is a great time for a man to be single, assuming he is a decent catch. I do have a professional, well paying job and am physically fit, and don’t have problems approaching or having a conversation. As far as SMV value, things are only looking up.
I say all this to ask, should I maintain my relationship with this girl I am currently dating despite wanting to bang other women? Or should I drop a decent girl in order to bang other women?
Does this urge to always want to bang hotter, other women stay with you until you get player burnout?
My dilemmas:
1. I think the girl I am currently with is marriage material but I do not want to be the equivalent of some early to mid 20s girl that dropped a decent guy for the next best thing.
2. She is a legitimately good person so I don’t waste her time.
3. I am getting older and don’t want to be old enough to be a grandparent but am still raising kids.
4. But on the other hand, based on all the things I have going for me and women I have gone on dates with in the past, I know I am able to get better looking women than the one I have, although their personalities may not be as pleasant.
5. I’m not sure about latching onto the first decent women that has shown serious interest.
Is it advisable to sleep with as many women as you can/want until you get “player burnout” or get a girl that is “good enough” even though you haven’t slept around much but would like to?
The reason I ask it that I am 30 and, despite putting in a lot of effort in approaching/game/fitness when I was in my 20s, I was not successful with women. I attribute that in large part to living in a bad dating environment.
Anyway, I recently met a girl in her 28 from another country and we’ve been dating for a few months. She has a great personality, and although I have gone on dates with many women that look better than her, she looks good enough for me. She actually has a feminine, caring personality that is in stark contrast to a lot of women in this city. She is one of the few women I have met that is marriage material.
My problem is, despite wanting to, I never banged a lot of women. My notch count is 10, which is even less than what it seems since I banged only a couple of those women more than once. Hence, I have constant thoughts about banging other women.
Moreover, although I personally haven’t experienced much change in my dating life yet, I hear that the 30s and 40s is a great time for a man to be single, assuming he is a decent catch. I do have a professional, well paying job and am physically fit, and don’t have problems approaching or having a conversation. As far as SMV value, things are only looking up.
I say all this to ask, should I maintain my relationship with this girl I am currently dating despite wanting to bang other women? Or should I drop a decent girl in order to bang other women?
Does this urge to always want to bang hotter, other women stay with you until you get player burnout?
My dilemmas:
1. I think the girl I am currently with is marriage material but I do not want to be the equivalent of some early to mid 20s girl that dropped a decent guy for the next best thing.
2. She is a legitimately good person so I don’t waste her time.
3. I am getting older and don’t want to be old enough to be a grandparent but am still raising kids.
4. But on the other hand, based on all the things I have going for me and women I have gone on dates with in the past, I know I am able to get better looking women than the one I have, although their personalities may not be as pleasant.
5. I’m not sure about latching onto the first decent women that has shown serious interest.