[TheMan]

(12-09-2011 03:08 AM)Amour Fou Wrote:  



You make it sound like a civil engineer trying to build a bridge!

A "frame" could be described as a certain pattern of emotional responses to your environment, to your surroundings, to situations.

And as it deals with emotions, it has to do with changing the way you feel.

And, really, you can't "force" yourself to feel or not to feel something, you can only lie to yourself that way, rationalizing and pretending, acting as if the emotions aren't there. You'll be divided and disconected from your feelings, and this lack of congruency will be felt by everyone, especially girls.

The emotions are there, and they always will be there unless you address them consciously, feeling them through and through.

Instead of thinking of "building a frame", think that one of the best ways of changing those emotional patterns that don't help you (a "beta frame") is to put yourself in situations that exposes those emotions and feelings that hurt the most and get used to feeling them to the point they don't bother you anymore.

What if I change the way I think about [the different stimuli]?