Beta Bait
So there I was finishing morning workout on Saturday morning. It is usually a longer 3 hour grueling session as we are off on Sunday, except those going to Rio who have an easy technical practice Sunday at one. As I climbed out of the water of the 50 meter pool, I was noticing at the nearby 25 meter pool there were a number of mothers with their children. For some reason, I noticed how much attention the mothers gave to the little girls almost immediately (with a minute) whereas with the boys they withheld the attention for two or three minutes. I thought, this is interesting, I want to observe further.
I went over to the corner of the other pool and sat down with my feet dangling to observe. As I observed more, it most case the mothers gave the little girls attention almost immediately and almost all of the boys received delayed attention. This is not science as it is only my observation, on one occasion with a small sample, but I am going to be on the lookout as this may be were some of the attention issues begin for women. As I sat there, one of the girls from swim practice came over and sat down next to me and said, hey NASA what are you doing? This girl is very pretty, rock´in body like the other swimmers, but she is more reserved and normally engages more indirectly (which is not bad). Ok, whatever, I said ´doing some people watching.´ She digs a little deeper and asks, what types of things are you watching? I am not the one to give women direct answers and I usually look for them to give to me more before I even begin the reciprocation process, but I thought, I will give her credit for asking something a little more under the surface. I wanted to see what her interest was, as I am sitting here watching mothers (there was one father) and their young children. I threw out some beta bait and said; ´I am watching how the mothers are interacting with their children´ and left it general. I could see her eyes open wider, her body turn toward me, more of her teeth were showing in her smile, her back straighten up she tilted her head slightly. All of this within 5 seconds of throwing the bait. Remember, this girl was normally more reserved and was not the aggressive type, but she took my interest in watching the mothers and their children as an indicator of being a provider. It illustrated on a deeper level to me how women (un)consciously pick up on small male behaviors that are of interest to them. My curiosity had a specific purpose in mind, but she read it as something else in relation to her needs and desires. I did a few physical escalations from arm to thigh to lower back and she asked if I wanted to join some of them for breakfast after practice. I said ´OK, but next time we have breakfast it will be at my place (her faced blushed as she tried to control her grin).´ After breakfast I spent a little time solo with her.
The interesting thing to me was my own reaction to her afterwards. She is not some unicorn, but she is pretty, she has great genetics (national/Olympic athlete) and her general value system is strong in part due to have positive role models from her mother and father, she is young. I know that her interest is something longer term, this is not my style in the legal sense, but I am OK with offspring if she is the type of woman that motivates me toward fulfilling my purpose as well as having other demonstrated tier 1 qualities. In this example, her genetic makeup matched with her unconscious interest kicked off something in me unconsciously with regard to offspring. I understand myself enough to know that I will not be limited to one female, even if she is (one of) the mother(s) of my children. My exceptions are no American, Canadian and a number of Western European women as potential bearers of my offspring, as I will not go for more than FB´s due to toxicity.
She needs to be OK with me traveling on my own terms and not being present with her or the family for long periods of time (whether she knows or does not know that I have others around the world is not as important to me). This will be difficult (but not impossible) for most women in today´s world. I accept this and may give them a chance to earn a promotion to my LTR world (for that country). I will give them an opportunity to demonstrate to me that they can handle my conditions, but I do not hold my breath. I do pause with girls like this, even in the interim; as I think, here is a pretty or beautiful woman that I find attractive, she has great genetics, good values, comes from a strong family, low notch count and at least inspires me to romance, so I slowly give her increased opportunities to garner my attention based on her actions. However, my instincts (and often experience) show me that she will not make the last hurdle and will want me to be with her and her alone. I am not a cold hearted bastard all of the time and I realize that a female has a limited window and I do not want to use all of her window knowing that I want something else. So, I give them a window (usually 6, but less than 12 months) to illustrate to me that they can make the leap and then I invest less attention and at a maximum she will be a regular LTR for that country.
I guess my sea story transformed into a reflective essay. Shit happens in stream of consciousness writing.
So there I was finishing morning workout on Saturday morning. It is usually a longer 3 hour grueling session as we are off on Sunday, except those going to Rio who have an easy technical practice Sunday at one. As I climbed out of the water of the 50 meter pool, I was noticing at the nearby 25 meter pool there were a number of mothers with their children. For some reason, I noticed how much attention the mothers gave to the little girls almost immediately (with a minute) whereas with the boys they withheld the attention for two or three minutes. I thought, this is interesting, I want to observe further.
I went over to the corner of the other pool and sat down with my feet dangling to observe. As I observed more, it most case the mothers gave the little girls attention almost immediately and almost all of the boys received delayed attention. This is not science as it is only my observation, on one occasion with a small sample, but I am going to be on the lookout as this may be were some of the attention issues begin for women. As I sat there, one of the girls from swim practice came over and sat down next to me and said, hey NASA what are you doing? This girl is very pretty, rock´in body like the other swimmers, but she is more reserved and normally engages more indirectly (which is not bad). Ok, whatever, I said ´doing some people watching.´ She digs a little deeper and asks, what types of things are you watching? I am not the one to give women direct answers and I usually look for them to give to me more before I even begin the reciprocation process, but I thought, I will give her credit for asking something a little more under the surface. I wanted to see what her interest was, as I am sitting here watching mothers (there was one father) and their young children. I threw out some beta bait and said; ´I am watching how the mothers are interacting with their children´ and left it general. I could see her eyes open wider, her body turn toward me, more of her teeth were showing in her smile, her back straighten up she tilted her head slightly. All of this within 5 seconds of throwing the bait. Remember, this girl was normally more reserved and was not the aggressive type, but she took my interest in watching the mothers and their children as an indicator of being a provider. It illustrated on a deeper level to me how women (un)consciously pick up on small male behaviors that are of interest to them. My curiosity had a specific purpose in mind, but she read it as something else in relation to her needs and desires. I did a few physical escalations from arm to thigh to lower back and she asked if I wanted to join some of them for breakfast after practice. I said ´OK, but next time we have breakfast it will be at my place (her faced blushed as she tried to control her grin).´ After breakfast I spent a little time solo with her.
The interesting thing to me was my own reaction to her afterwards. She is not some unicorn, but she is pretty, she has great genetics (national/Olympic athlete) and her general value system is strong in part due to have positive role models from her mother and father, she is young. I know that her interest is something longer term, this is not my style in the legal sense, but I am OK with offspring if she is the type of woman that motivates me toward fulfilling my purpose as well as having other demonstrated tier 1 qualities. In this example, her genetic makeup matched with her unconscious interest kicked off something in me unconsciously with regard to offspring. I understand myself enough to know that I will not be limited to one female, even if she is (one of) the mother(s) of my children. My exceptions are no American, Canadian and a number of Western European women as potential bearers of my offspring, as I will not go for more than FB´s due to toxicity.
She needs to be OK with me traveling on my own terms and not being present with her or the family for long periods of time (whether she knows or does not know that I have others around the world is not as important to me). This will be difficult (but not impossible) for most women in today´s world. I accept this and may give them a chance to earn a promotion to my LTR world (for that country). I will give them an opportunity to demonstrate to me that they can handle my conditions, but I do not hold my breath. I do pause with girls like this, even in the interim; as I think, here is a pretty or beautiful woman that I find attractive, she has great genetics, good values, comes from a strong family, low notch count and at least inspires me to romance, so I slowly give her increased opportunities to garner my attention based on her actions. However, my instincts (and often experience) show me that she will not make the last hurdle and will want me to be with her and her alone. I am not a cold hearted bastard all of the time and I realize that a female has a limited window and I do not want to use all of her window knowing that I want something else. So, I give them a window (usually 6, but less than 12 months) to illustrate to me that they can make the leap and then I invest less attention and at a maximum she will be a regular LTR for that country.
I guess my sea story transformed into a reflective essay. Shit happens in stream of consciousness writing.