[King of Monkeys]

(03-13-2016 01:45 AM)rapaz12 Wrote:  

My brain goes blank and I start to act like I'm chatting with the guy that's with me until I think of what to do. I then decide to move over to her and comment on something her friends said to her when she came in. She then responds to me and then I think(my memory is terrible) she asks what my name is. I think I tell her and then she starts ignoring me.

I then figure I screwed it up and eject.

You're giving yourself too hard of a time here. Right now you're only looking at this one way, but it's clear to me you're doing better than you realize and you don't even know it. Think about it: here you are, talking with a bunch of people you didn't really know, and a girl who hasn't even met you yet is interested in you. You thought she was ignoring you? She might've lost interest when you began talking to her. Or maybe she was feeling just as nervous as you are and wasn't sure to say. Either way, you fucking walked up to group of people you've never met before and handled it pretty solidly.

There's always room to improve, but I would say this is far from screwing up. You engaged a group which is only going to increase your social skills. You talked to a girl who showed interest you instead of staying inside your head and never engaging her. The best part of all this is it will help you that much more in the next interaction. Just like when you talked to the girl with the service dog and then ran into someone else with one. Now you have one more experience you can talk about.

You are always going to gain something good from every interaction, so don't beat yourself up about it.