Hey guys, I wanted to add this to the "scandalous things girls have said" thread but I'm pretty worried about this one and need some help deciding how to manage this.
So I met this girl off Tinder, texted back and forth for a while. Turns out this girl is a single mom at 19, but I was only going for the bang so I didn't think too much of it.
I finally got to hang out with this broad yesterday. While she seemed super sweet at first, I found some obvious red flags
1) Obviously the whole single mom thing
2) Bashed the father of the baby a lot
3) Textbook narcissist, thousands of selfies and videos of her cheerleading team that she felt inclined to show me for some reason
4) Talked non-stop. I'm not super great at keeping conversation so talkative chicks always help but this was insane. Ties in with the narcissist thing
On the other hand, she was pretty hot and the whole cheerleader thing kept her in shape. So I stuck with it
Today, we go on a slightly longer date, two hours or so as opposed to 40 minutes the first time. Still the same negative traits, and I was prepared to cut it off since she told me earlier that she "wasn't in it for sex". In the end I passed all her shit tests and got her home for the bang.
Now, after sex we're just talking and she brings up the ex-bf and how much of a dick he is. I guess the guy bailed so she's trying to get alimony. Here were her exact words:
"I had sex with another guy two weeks before, wouldn't it be so funny if he's putting in all that money for a kid who isn't his?"
Needless to say that got my stomach turning. To avoid getting her mad, I asked if the father got DNA testing done and she said no. I then told her basically that it's fucked up to say shit like that, even as a joke. She kind of brushed it off and then I dropped her off at home.
Now I wore protection with this girl. Especially since I knew that she had refused to get an abortion from this guy and since I didn't know if she was on birth control.
My question is: Do I have a legitimate reason to be concerned or am I just over-analyzing?
My next step was going to be to mention over text something like "just so you know, it's not a good idea to talk about paternity fraud after just having sex with someone for the first time". That way, if she replies, I have physical proof that the conversation happened if worst case scenario comes along. Is this a good idea or should I do something else? The last thing I want to do is piss this girl off
TLDR: I fucked a single mom with obvious red flags to bust a slump and she made a joke about how her baby's father might not be the real father.
So I met this girl off Tinder, texted back and forth for a while. Turns out this girl is a single mom at 19, but I was only going for the bang so I didn't think too much of it.
I finally got to hang out with this broad yesterday. While she seemed super sweet at first, I found some obvious red flags
1) Obviously the whole single mom thing
2) Bashed the father of the baby a lot
3) Textbook narcissist, thousands of selfies and videos of her cheerleading team that she felt inclined to show me for some reason
4) Talked non-stop. I'm not super great at keeping conversation so talkative chicks always help but this was insane. Ties in with the narcissist thing
On the other hand, she was pretty hot and the whole cheerleader thing kept her in shape. So I stuck with it
Today, we go on a slightly longer date, two hours or so as opposed to 40 minutes the first time. Still the same negative traits, and I was prepared to cut it off since she told me earlier that she "wasn't in it for sex". In the end I passed all her shit tests and got her home for the bang.
Now, after sex we're just talking and she brings up the ex-bf and how much of a dick he is. I guess the guy bailed so she's trying to get alimony. Here were her exact words:
"I had sex with another guy two weeks before, wouldn't it be so funny if he's putting in all that money for a kid who isn't his?"
Needless to say that got my stomach turning. To avoid getting her mad, I asked if the father got DNA testing done and she said no. I then told her basically that it's fucked up to say shit like that, even as a joke. She kind of brushed it off and then I dropped her off at home.
Now I wore protection with this girl. Especially since I knew that she had refused to get an abortion from this guy and since I didn't know if she was on birth control.
My question is: Do I have a legitimate reason to be concerned or am I just over-analyzing?
My next step was going to be to mention over text something like "just so you know, it's not a good idea to talk about paternity fraud after just having sex with someone for the first time". That way, if she replies, I have physical proof that the conversation happened if worst case scenario comes along. Is this a good idea or should I do something else? The last thing I want to do is piss this girl off
TLDR: I fucked a single mom with obvious red flags to bust a slump and she made a joke about how her baby's father might not be the real father.