Quote: (10-20-2015 07:57 PM)ryanf Wrote:
Good once she's hooked, I hope someone posts something during the earlier phase.
Very first text exchange with currently girl I'm dating, not sure if this is helpful. She's a solid 8.5.
Quick background - we met on OkCupid. I sent her like 4 messages and then was like "u seem cool, lets grab drinks this week at [bar]. whats ur cell #?" (I'd have to dig the actual exchange off OKC).
This exchange ensued over about two weeks. It's my initial text after getting digits from OKC, up to the bang.
[I pull digits on OKC. We text back and forth here and there prior to the first date]
Hank Moody:
yo ladycakes, it’s hank. wed is no good for me because i have a thing but thursday looks good
Ladycakes:
Cool cool. Yea, Thursday works better for me too. I've actually been to [bar]. Let's meet there around 8 thursday?
Hank Moody:
sounds like a plan man
Ladycakes:
Cool dude
So can we say 8:15-8:30ish. I'm gonna workout from 6:30-7:30. I don't want to rush tho when I get done
Hank Moody:
sounds good. i have to get back in at crossfit this week. the winter killed me.
Ladycakes:
You like crossfit? I've done it once or twice
Hank Moody:
i love it. great community and workout. the hard part is scheduling it and then getting in the gym.
Ladycakes:
True. I just had to switch trainers
My schedule just didn't make sense
How long have you done Crossfit?
Hank Moody:
started in 2013. got really hardcore about it in 2014. this year has been rough w the weather and a few jury trials. i am out celebrating w a client and its taking every bit of discipline not to down a plate of tater tots.
Ladycakes:
Dude...gimme a tot
That's good. I like to workout so I can eat whatever I want
Hank Moody:
File Transfer: IMG_0442.JPGgoddammit.
File Transfer: IMG_0442.JPGgoddammit.
[Hank sends a picture of tater tots, with a hot chick in the background]
Ladycakes:
Haha. Good for you!
Let ya know when I'm on my way
[we met up this night in person for the first time]
Hank Moody:
sounds good. i’m still in my 7pm meeting. clients were running late. gotta get changed. i’m not going to [bar] in a suit
Ladycakes:
Haha. Is 9 good then?
Hank Moody:
perfect
on my way
Ladycakes:
In a cab
Here
I got a booth
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My "I'm almost drunk face" [she sends me a selfie]
[Later that night after we ate dinner, we proceed to hook up and make out in a cab. I get home and get this text]
Ladycakes:
Thanks again. I had a blast
Hank Moody:
cool
Ladycakes:
I still want that unicorn from on the wall.
Hank Moody:
hahaha it's going in my office.
[next day]
Hank Moody:
come out in [my part of the city] tonight
also, [my law partner] got to examine witnesses today in court. it was epic. i cant stop laughing watching him clown them lawyers.
im gonna call u ladycakes mcfancypants from now on
[a few hours later she responds]
Ladycakes:
Hankpants
Whatchya got going on in [your part of the city]?
Hank Moody:
that’s mr. hank fancypants, esquire. we’re probably going to hit up quizzo and karaoke. then one of my buddies is a bartender at [another bar] because meat [hot female friend working at an upscale BBQ joint]
Ladypants:
I LOVE [that bar]
Hank Moody:
it’s like three blocks from my house. uber over. we're all here
[we meet up, have drinks, and then bangs ensue. this has been going on since February].
Moral of the story, looking back on it.
1. Texting isn't what generates attraction, it's all the shit in between
2. You can only fuck shit up via text. I would have probably dialed it back even more in hindsight.
3. LTR game is different than initially getting the bang. My insanely laconic game probably would not have resulted in a bang.
Most importantly... text messaging is a reflection of how much she likes you. You don't generate attraction with text messages. You can fuck up attraction, though. Keep them short, simple, stupid, and non-dramatic.