Before: Get married and have lotsa great sex (long-ago abandoned)
Now: Friends, lovers, or nothing...there can only be one (more recently)
Those are the opposite ends of a broad spectrum. In between I thought the ideal is some stable long-term girlfriend with lotsa great sex. I no longer believe this. Excitement is key to great sex, and excitement inevitably slowly slips away with familiarity. It sucks, but I'm seeing it more and more during the 2015 year of heavy.
I can also say, I have two friends, Alpha in many ways (both highly sought after men in social circles), in great marriages who can attest. Both in great marriages for less than 5 years. Both have smokin' hot wives. Both will tell me...frequency has tapered, quality has really tapered. The wifey sees it as more of a job than she used to.
Now: Friends, lovers, or nothing...there can only be one (more recently)
Those are the opposite ends of a broad spectrum. In between I thought the ideal is some stable long-term girlfriend with lotsa great sex. I no longer believe this. Excitement is key to great sex, and excitement inevitably slowly slips away with familiarity. It sucks, but I'm seeing it more and more during the 2015 year of heavy.
I can also say, I have two friends, Alpha in many ways (both highly sought after men in social circles), in great marriages who can attest. Both in great marriages for less than 5 years. Both have smokin' hot wives. Both will tell me...frequency has tapered, quality has really tapered. The wifey sees it as more of a job than she used to.
“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.”