I got married at 21 to a girl who had turned 18 four days earlier. We cranked out three kids by the time I turned 27. It's weird because I look back and don't really regret those decisions, but I wouldn't say it was easy nor would I necessarily say that they were the right decisions at the time. I was immature and we struggled mightily to make ends meet. But we did it. And my wife didn't really work other than a few part time hustles here and there. Selling Avon to some friends, stuff like that. But we were and are fully committed to each other, so even when times are tough, we stick together and pull through.
After reading some of the posts in the "Turning 40" thread, I'm working on not living with regret. But I do have regrets. I wish I had been more red pill over the years. I'm now stuck trying to undo 20+ years of blue pill beta actions, and it is a tough slog. I gave in to my wife's whims and opinions wayyyy too much over the years. I subscribed to that bullshit "happy wife, happy life" saying. The problem with that saying, though, is that your wife has NO IDEA what will make her happy. She thinks she does! Oh yes, she definitely thinks she knows. But the reality is that she has not the faintest idea. She only knows what she feels right now, today. Tomorrow doesn't exist. It took me far, far too long to figure that out and quit caring what she thought about everything I said or did. In fact, I'll be honest, i'm not fully cured of that now. And i'm 23 years into this thing and see full evidence of red pill truth every day and yet I feel like I'm fighting tooth and nail against my inner nature. I'm definitely no Alpha, but I'm actively working on adding more alpha traits (or red pill traits, however you'd like to say it) each day and quit beating myself up over the past.
Went on a bit of a ramble there. But at the end of the day, we each have to do what we think is best. I don't know if getting married young is what's best. It (so far) has worked out for me. But it isn't easy. And society has changed so much recently, I'm not sure a guy turning 21 today is in the same universe that I was back then. So, to summarize my unhelpful addition to this thread: I have no idea if I'd do it again today. But I'm glad I did it when I did. I have a good family and kids that I love and a faithful wife.
After reading some of the posts in the "Turning 40" thread, I'm working on not living with regret. But I do have regrets. I wish I had been more red pill over the years. I'm now stuck trying to undo 20+ years of blue pill beta actions, and it is a tough slog. I gave in to my wife's whims and opinions wayyyy too much over the years. I subscribed to that bullshit "happy wife, happy life" saying. The problem with that saying, though, is that your wife has NO IDEA what will make her happy. She thinks she does! Oh yes, she definitely thinks she knows. But the reality is that she has not the faintest idea. She only knows what she feels right now, today. Tomorrow doesn't exist. It took me far, far too long to figure that out and quit caring what she thought about everything I said or did. In fact, I'll be honest, i'm not fully cured of that now. And i'm 23 years into this thing and see full evidence of red pill truth every day and yet I feel like I'm fighting tooth and nail against my inner nature. I'm definitely no Alpha, but I'm actively working on adding more alpha traits (or red pill traits, however you'd like to say it) each day and quit beating myself up over the past.
Went on a bit of a ramble there. But at the end of the day, we each have to do what we think is best. I don't know if getting married young is what's best. It (so far) has worked out for me. But it isn't easy. And society has changed so much recently, I'm not sure a guy turning 21 today is in the same universe that I was back then. So, to summarize my unhelpful addition to this thread: I have no idea if I'd do it again today. But I'm glad I did it when I did. I have a good family and kids that I love and a faithful wife.