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Had I understood then what I understand now, the situation itself wouldn't have been different, but certainly I would have reacted very differently to it.
Desire is not negotiable.
This is a really good point.
If you had a wife who blew up to 300 pounds, cut her hair short, stopped showering, and then pestered you for sex everyday, I would bet most of you would find that situation annoying. Most any man would leave the marriage in that situation.
I imagine that this woman felt the same way at a subconscious level- that some man who was being needy and insecure, and who she had zero attraction to, was pressuring for her sex everyday. So of course she left.
That's not to say that it's right that we need game for a successful marriage- rather it's just how it is.
Now, it may have been different back in the old days. At one point in time, boys were raised with the idea they would be the leader in the marriage, and girls that they would follow their husband. Religion was stronger, and taught that the man led in the marriage. The man had the right to slap his wife if it came to that. Marital rape didn't exist so a man wouldn't need to plead for sex like a beggar, he could just take it. Men were taught that they should lead and given support by society to do so. Divorce carried a strong social stigma, and the woman might not be provided for if her man left.
This prevented the modern situation where a man becomes a sniveling pajama boy, where he loses control of his marriage, and his wife loses her attraction for him.
But now the world has changed, where so much as shouting at your wife can be considered abuse, where girls are taught that is demeaning to have the man in charge of the relationship, and where if they divorce they will get "You go Girl!" from society and lots of $$$$$ from the courts. Or, even if they don't divorce, they can be a bitch within the marriage and make life miserable at home, they can have a sexless marriage, they can cheat, all without anything in the way of consequence.
So, as best all I can tell, all we have to rely on nowadays is Game to keep the woman happy and the relationship afloat.
But that still strikes me as a sucker's bet. I don't know but you all, but I still mess up sometimes with Game. I don't bat .1000, I don't always pass every shit test with flying colors. But as an unmarried man, that's fine. I mess up, I might lose that girl, but then there plenty of more women out there in the world to try again with. Just move on to the next one. If I'm going through a rough stretch in life for whatever reason, I can always take a couple weeks off game and then get right back at it. But if you are married and mess up with game- well then there you risk divorce rape.