So I met this girl on Tuesday and got her number.

This morning she texts me and asks if I want to hang out with her friends (night time at a bar).

Should I go? My concerns are that it's Saturday night and I "should" be busy with fun plans of my own (I don't have any) so going may lower my value. Also It will be much harder to bang her with her friends around.

My response to her wanna hang out text - "maybe"

You guidance is appreciated.

I wouldn't hang out with a girl AND her friends. Set up a weekday date if you can.

whatever you want to do. if you got nothing else and you think you'll have fun, then yes, of course you should go. if it's just one of several other things you have goin on, then use your best judgement.

the best that could happen is that you go home with the girl and hit it off with her friends and have a bunch of new friends too. the worst that could happen is her friends gossip about you and you don't get the girl. most likely, you'll have fun, not get the lay, but also make some casual new friends too.

No.

you are putting yourself in the position of allowing her friends to evaluate you-this is a position of weakness. The friends will likely interrogate you, and shit test you, and have fun cockblocking you. Don't give a girl the upper hand like this. And how are you going to escalate with her friends around?

Also don't give a girl a weekend night for a first date-she should have to earn that by banging you.

^This. I especially agree with giving first dates the weekend. That's a mistake. Weekends should only reserved for your main prospect(s) who have proven they're worthy of your time.

I have been in the same situation before several times and recommend avoiding it at all costs. Being in a situation where everyone knows each other except you can be hard unless you are extremely comfortable with being around new people and are charming and they are somewhat welcoming to outsiders. The best way to do it is go on several outings with the girl you are interested in and then maybe after that include one friend in a situation where you can chat with her for a couple of hours. Being introduced to the entire group of her friends is just asking for trouble.

Don't ever "hang" out with a girl and her friends. Nothing good can happen from it.

I'd go. (But I'm spending my with girls I'm very attracted to in the first place).

Important: If you can't handle her peer group then DO NOT GO cause you will voluntarily fuck yourself up.

But if you can then it's great opportunity to come across as high status like a motherfucker very quickly. She invites you for a reason. To confront you with her peer group. Her friends' green light will be always 10x more important to her than your top shelf game. Once they like you it's so easy. Besides, it's not that hard to impress random people her age. Be chill. Crack a few jokes. Tell some silly stories. Chat with guys about football game. Flirt with girls in innocent manner [a little jealousy never hurts]. Teach them something cool. Be interesting. Kids stuff.

Don't worry about interrogations. They can't do shit. Be prepared for some typical boring questions. Stay relaxed. Don't say stupid shit and you will be fine.

Keep your hands off your girl. She's not going anywhere. This is not the place and time for escalating. This not a date. The goal of going there is to game her friends to make them tell your girl to go take you home that night and fuck you. In that setting her friends will make that happen. Not you. So pay more attention to her friends.

If it goes ok leave with her at the end and go to your/her place. She will go, some wine and her friend's approval will get her horny.

In case of getting the dreaded question "Are you together?" tell them "she harassed me the whole week asking that and finally I surrendered, I called her and said 'ok ok.. i give in.. today.. under the bridge.. at noon.. be alone..' haha and look now we're here so yeah i guess we are, well, until we fuck it up, could be any second now". Here she will interrupt you and tell them truth that she met you this week. So basically she will answer for you ;]

It can be very beneficial. That's all I'm saying.

XXL is on point! Go and take the aloof fun attitude with you! If she hit you up to chill with her friends this means that she probably wanted to chill with just you two but she feels ( like every broad out there) that she needs her friends approval. SO just go, stay relaxed, keep the mood light talk to her friends win them over (which isn't that hard to do). If you do this right they will practically throw her to you by the end of the night.

Tell her to come to you wherever you're at. Be at some other nearby bar, preferably with mixed company. This will likely result in:
1. She doesn't come=not interested anyway and/or too busy/drunk with her girls.
2. She comes alone= her friends don't even really matter that much to her.
3. She comes with her friends= you get vetted on your own terms and the mobile game gives you the opportunity to break with the group.

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It can be very beneficial. That's all I'm saying.

That's great advice XXL. They only caveat I'd add is: Your inner game and frame should be rocksolid or you'll run the risk of cockblocking yourself.

XXL for sure speaks the truth. You're gonna have to win over a girls peer group one way or the other, so why not now?

I always fuck up anything a girl and I got goin whenever I meet her friends. I used to sweat it A LOT - I still sweat it, but not nearly so much. I'm getting better at it with lots of practice. But lemme tell you, the times I have said stupid shit and totally blew it with a girl when she invites me to meet her friends or sister(s) is unbelievable, hahaha. I'm beginning to understand the mindframe, however, of just having fun with the process, and gradually peeling back the layers of faux personality to get to the real self.

People we are talking about a guy with 2 post on this forum. The chances of him succeeding are extremely low.

The higher your game level the higher chance you have at a bang in any situation.

Quote: (12-22-2012 10:52 AM)hkbachelor Wrote:  

So I met this girl on Tuesday and got her number.

This morning she texts me and asks if I want to hang out with her friends (night time at a bar).

Should I go? My concerns are that it's Saturday night and I "should" be busy with fun plans of my own (I don't have any) so going may lower my value. Also It will be much harder to bang her with her friends around.

My response to her wanna hang out text - "maybe"

You guidance is appreciated.

Find my "Rough Night" thread from this same forum - it's still on Page 1 or Page 2. This is the potential downside. I'd take XXL's tips and be very conscious/cool about your actions. I would stay sober (I had two too many drinks and that contributed to me losing my cool). I would mingle with friends and people outside your group and on your group's peripheral. I'd also consider leaving before they leave to "meet up with a buddy" if you suss out that the logistics won't allow you to leave with your girl.

Don't say "maybe". That just reeks of trying too hard to sound aloof.

"Hey thanks for the invite but I've got plans already. Another time for sure"

Then get your ass out solo if you have to and get some more prospects. Don't go meet her and her friends.

At the most "I've got plans but I can swing by for a bit and say hey"

Then get your ass out solo if you have to and get some more prospects.

Thanks for the advice guys. In the end I did not hang out with her last night.

you did the right thing

Never do it unless yall have fucked.

So whats the point of meeting her friends again? I hardly read your posts after you admitted to being a cockblocker in the Poland thread. Merry Christmas!

XXL wrote the cockblocking thing from the perspective of a locale. And absolutely, if you're in position to guard your girl against AMOGs, that's what you do: cockblock. The hotter the girl is the more you cockblock like a mofo.

Meeting her friends is about social dynamics, and becoming a well-rounded player.

So whats the point of your response in this thread again?

Simple answer for houston.. meeting her friends and having a fun conversation with her peer group which can make them like you can be very beneficial simply because they influence her decisions much more than some new random guy she sees for the second time in her life. Common sense really. Experience backs it up.

As a side note about cockblocking... If you can't punk a random dude to get the girl, you don't deserve the girl. Truth hurts.

Quote: (12-25-2012 05:47 PM)XXL Wrote:  

So whats the point of your response in this thread again?

Simple answer for houston.. meeting her friends and having a fun conversation with her peer group which can make them like you.....

This ain't a popularity contest man. You want bangs not votes for president.

Most of the times meeting her with friends will not work at all.

The time spent gaming her friends as well can be spent doing something better like thinking where the hell did IRT went.

Quote: (12-25-2012 05:47 PM)XXL Wrote:  

So whats the point of your response in this thread again?

Simple answer for houston.. meeting her friends and having a fun conversation with her peer group which can make them like you can be very beneficial simply because they influence her decisions much more than some new random guy she sees for the second time in her life. Common sense really. Experience backs it up.

As a side note about cockblocking... If you can't punk a random dude to get the girl, you don't deserve the girl. Truth hurts.

Ive gone out and met a girls friends a handful of times. Every other time, I give her an excuse. Why would you advise someone to do that instead of just waiting to meetup with her alone later on? I know you handcuff your girls in Poland but we fuck them and toss them in America so what benefits would someone get?

my bad tough guy. Just keep hating and cockblocking guys trying to get with your friends. The truth hurts but more than one person has called you that on here.

Quote: (12-25-2012 05:47 PM)XXL Wrote:  

As a side note about cockblocking... If you can't punk a random dude to get the girl, you don't deserve the girl. Truth hurts.

Why would you do the number one thing us PLAYERS hate the most?

Cockblocking is not when you steal a girl and give her your cock instead. It is when you PREVENT a girl from GETTING cock.