I know, pretty beta situation to begin with. Still, anyone here have any success dissuading their girl from getting one, or getting her to remove any existing ones?

I shame it for what it is and called her out on her short-sighted thinking and childish thought pattern, the degeneracy of all tattoos, but didn't straight up call her a whore, still trying to keep her lol.

But the truth is she knows I can't stand them, and she still has is it her mind to go and get two soon. I don't know if I should say this to her but seeing tattoos on a woman, especially mine, reminds me of all the sluts I used to fuck years ago, and I don't want to be reminded of that.

What should I do? Just keep reiterating how disgusted I am? Make her cover it up? I'm putting my foot down on this one and I will not relent if she goes out and does this.

I know I'm not alone in my sentiments, but tattoos are a form of mental illness period.

If she's my woman, she doesn't want tattoos. Sounds like this chick is gonna do what she wants regardless of what you think. Start exploring other options.

Quote: (08-15-2017 01:36 PM)IstillLoveVistaBaby Wrote:  

I know, pretty beta situation to begin with. Still, anyone here have any success dissuading their girl from getting one, or getting her to remove any existing ones?

I shame it for what it is and called her out on her short-sighted thinking and childish thought pattern, the degeneracy of all tattoos, but didn't straight up call her a whore, still trying to keep her lol.

But the truth is she knows I can't stand them, and she still has is it her mind to go and get two soon. I don't know if I should say this to her but seeing tattoos on a woman, especially mine, reminds me of all the sluts I used to fuck years ago, and I don't want to be reminded of that.

What should I do? Just keep reiterating how disgusted I am? Make her cover it up? I'm putting my foot down on this one and I will not relent if she goes out and does this.

I know I'm not alone in my sentiments, but tattoos are a form of mental illness period.

If you've made your feelings clear and she's still intent on doing it then

A) She doesn't respect your opinion
B) Doesn't really believe shes at risk of losing you over it
C) Doesnt really care if she does

If you really feel strongly against her getting the tattoos then make it an ultimatum...make it clear that you dont respect girls that would permanently defile their body in order to "fit in" and will never have serious relationship with one

The irony is that tattoos were originally used in the West as a method of "rebellion". Now theyre so common that it's really a signal of "conformity"

If she does it anyway...she's answered your question.

Personally Id just keep banging her but take her out of any LTR consideration

alpha thing to do would tell her she can get it but in a spot where it isnt visible out of respect for you. Telling a woman she cant do something to her body at all because it upsets you is beta.

I'm going to have trouble if I exit out of this one, I've already invested several years of time, among other things, into her. We were planning on starting a family soon but this tattoo bullshit keeps resurfacing. I'm going to shame the shit out of her no matter what. Are there any other psychological tactics that would penetrate the female hamster brain on how gross and unsanitary tattoos are?

Also, so no one I know finds my posts, is there a private forum or page where I can post some serious help questions on this matter?

Is it a meaningful tattoo? Like one for a dead loved one?

As far as I'm concerned all tattoos are meaningless. I've lost loved ones and I hold on to their memory, however I don't need to disfigure my body over it. Thats weak sauce. It's like no woman can understand this concept, not with the shallow, undeveloped, and primitive minds that they are.

I am thinking of trying to come to some middle ground with her if she just 'has' to get one. I may be willing to overlook if she gets a small one and it isn't visible unless she is naked. I'm still disgusted just by the sight of them. I'm of the opinion that they're all inked succubi, my mind can't fathom how people actually desire to engage in self-mutilation.

Quote: (08-15-2017 01:59 PM)miggyme1 Wrote:  

alpha thing to do would tell her she can get it but in a spot where it isnt visible out of respect for you. Telling a woman she cant do something to her body at all because it upsets you is beta.

Exactly!!

Tell her it's fine, as long as it's your name.

Quote: (08-15-2017 02:17 PM)IstillLoveVistaBaby Wrote:  

As far as I'm concerned all tattoos are meaningless. I've lost loved ones and I hold on to their memory, however I don't need to disfigure my body over it. Thats weak sauce. It's like no woman can understand this concept, not with the shallow, undeveloped, and primitive minds that they are.

Still, I am trying to come to some middle ground with her if she just 'has' to get one. I may be willing to overlook if she gets a small one and it isn't visible unless she is naked. I'm still disgusted just by the sight of them. I'm of the opinion that they're all inked succubi, my mind can't fathom how people actually desire to engage in self-mutilation.

sounds like u need to change your way of thinking...its......primitive. as i stated previously if its in an area that isnt visible i dont see a problem and the only time u would see it is when she is completely naked or a bathing suit depending on where she gets it. unless u live in a body of water ud hardly see it.

I know man, its hard though. I just can't understand the mentality, do you know what I mean? Like PapayaTapper mentioned, every-fucking-body does it nowadays, its so ugly, stupid, so hive-mind.

How am I supposed to change my way of thinking? Every cookie-cutter bitch out there thinks she's so special and different because of her fucking gross-ass tats. Lol.

Quote: (08-15-2017 02:03 PM)IstillLoveVistaBaby Wrote:  

I'm going to have trouble if I exit out of this one, I've already invested several years of time, among other things, into her. We were planning on starting a family soon but this tattoo bullshit keeps resurfacing. I'm going to shame the shit out of her no matter what. Are there any other psychological tactics that would penetrate the female hamster brain on how gross and unsanitary tattoos are?

Also, so no one I know finds my posts, is there a private forum or page where I can post some serious help questions on this matter?

How old are you?
How old is she?
Are you married?

If her desire to for attention from others (and make no mistake,,,thats ALL a tattoo is) is greater than the fear of displeasing then as I said above...She doesn't respect you, believe you, etc.

You lose this battle now and you will lose the war. Failing this test now will lay the groundwork for all kinds misery down the road should you indeed marry or have kids with her.

I'd keep diacrediting tattoos so that she understands she will not get any validation for getting any. I think thats the purpose for her to get a tattoo. To show it off to you and others.

With my girl it worked. She knows I dislike green color of clothes and she does not wear any. Same with different things. Removing validation was key.

I co-sign what XXL is saying. Show open disdain for the thing she wants. When you're in public with her and you see a girl with tattoos.
Openly make a comment about how ugly she looks with it.

To the OP
This comes down to proper mate choice in the end.
If you still want to stay with her accept that more and more of these types of shit test will come in the future. Until the point you get cucked.
If you don't have kids with her and aren't married leave now and pick a better girl to invest in.

The last thing you want is her in her mid-40's getting another tattoo while you have a young daughter who is going to take after her mother. Never mind having the conversation about how she can't go to the club/vacation with her girlfriends to get strange cock because of the new found attention she's getting from her tattoo.

Tell her her natural naked skin is far more beautiful than even the best possible tattoo (though other girls would never admit that), and however good some girls may look with tats, they'd look even better without them.

And of course finally, tell her that it would be a fireable (break up) offense and be willing to drop her if she vandalizes herself.

To add, I completely agree with the abhorrence towards women with [visible] tattoos.
It's a masculine characteristic and they look like trash on women. Never in my life would I even consider settling down with a woman with visible tats. FOH w/ that BS

Quote: (08-15-2017 03:29 PM)DimeBait Wrote:  

It's a masculine characteristic

That's my main problem with tattoos. Not how they actually look but what they indicate. I'm actually a big tattoo enthusiast and well done tattoos are always appreciated by me. But just like women with purple hair, short hair, septum piercings, and gauged ears, even if the girl looks good in spite of her body modification, the fact that she has it is an indicator of an underlying mental issue.

It's the underlying mental issues that are indicated by such unfeminine and masculine behavior that are the true red flags.

I'm fine with these things on a girl that's just for sex but not on wife/mother material. Hell no.

Show her this

When she tell you she getting a tattoo despite what you say or think

Thanks for the comments. I'm not moving in my position. She may be stubborn but I am doubly so. Do women really show their weak beckoning sides when given an ultimatum? I've never had to give one from this stance before, and I'm not sure how it would go right off the bat. I am hesitant, but I will not be cucked.

Quote: (08-15-2017 02:03 PM)IstillLoveVistaBaby Wrote:  

I'm going to have trouble if I exit out of this one, I've already invested several years of time, among other things, into her. We were planning on starting a family soon but this tattoo bullshit keeps resurfacing.

THAT is the reason she feels she can disrespect and ignore you.

You give off the onitis vibe - she is locked in and doesn't need to make an effort.

The ONLY way to regain respect and prevent the tat is to draw a rock solid, not negotiable line in the sand.

Phrase it this way:

"It's your body your choice - you can do whatever you like"

"But it's also my body, my choice, and I choose to be with a woman that doesn't not get tattoos because she (insert reasons why you don't like tats here)"

Don't be a pussy and make a stand. She will love you more.

Quote: (08-15-2017 07:39 PM)IstillLoveVistaBaby Wrote:  

Thanks for the comments. I'm not moving in my position. She may be stubborn but I am doubly so. Do women really show their weak beckoning sides when given an ultimatum? I've never had to give one from this stance before, and I'm not sure how it would go right off the bat. I am hesitant, but I will not be cucked.

Need more data to really get a better read on the situation and her reactions. Im going assume to live in US or other Westernized country

How old are you?
How old is she?
How long have you been together?
Do either of you smoke cigarettes?
Are her parents still together?
How is her relationship with them ?
Socioeconomic group (poor, middle, affluent)?
Her friends...do they smoke, have tattoos? (There's a correlation)

This could / should shed some light on what her likely reaction to an ultimatum

In general though if you put your foot down and she backs down she will find herself more attracted to you...even if she cant explain why Edit Wrote this before I saw Rat in the Woods post above

If she finds me posting about her online again I'm going to never hear the end of it. I'm 26 and she is 24. Been together almost 2 years. She smokes cigarettes, doesn't want to quit that either yet, and I know its causing a lot of health issues for her.. but thats another subject. No her parents are not together. She loves her mother and has great relationship, but no relationship with the father (I know big red flag). She's never had a man in her life tell her "no" before because she was always spoiled, albeit she grew up poor otherwise, maybe close to middle class, definitely not rich. She doesn't have any friends in US, she is from Europe, but yeah from what I could tell just about everyone in her country in her age group or close to it smokes and has tats. I am 2nd generation American but she is foreign. We've been wanting to start a family. She doesn't disrespect me in public or otherwise engage in cucking behavior, its just this personal obsession with degenerate culture (namely tats and other celebrity pop culture bs) which will eventually rot her out if I can't do something to make it stop. When I said no male friends she agreed after awhile, but I kept at it and she eventually relented and agrees that men and women can't be friends. I'm sorry Papaya I'm trying not to be so specific just to cover my ass in case someone finds this thread who knows us. She is very homely otherwise and I know would be a great mother, but its just the fucking tattoos man lol, I don't want to raise a kid (much less a daughter) with a mother who looks like a graffiti wall and to have the child think that is normal.

I'm going to stand by my decision to deny it to her and see how she is in a week. What I've noticed is that women's thoughts are so fleeting that they may want something one minute, and not the next (including something damaging and permanent like tats). I'm baffled by these malfunctioning brains of theirs bro.

I'm not a fan of tattoos, but I certainly don't hate them as much as you do.

If she gets the tattoo, drop her. I think you have an issue though not only of her potentially getting one but simply WANTING to get one. She likes some degenerate shit, take it or leave it.

Thanks for answering my questions.

I dont know if I have the answers. But I can only tell you what I would tell a friend or son. You aren't going to like it though. Ill put this as gently as I can. Its not my intent to offend you but I have 6 suggestions

1 DO
2 NOT
3 GET
4 THIS
5 WOMAN
6 PREGNANT

There's a reason I asked you the questions I did and your answers pretty much confirmed my suspicions. The paragraph you wrote may as well be this

Quote: (08-15-2017 09:40 PM)IstillLoveVistaBaby Wrote:  

I respect that you care for this girl and feel invested but the reality is if your 26 yo I would just focus on improving your own life for the next decade and then look for a young, sweet, non tattooed , non smoker thats more a more suitable mother.

Youre letting your complacency in having a chick in hand rationalize away all the red flags. But I know you can see them

Youre a decade from reaching your max value and she's almost a decade past hers

When youre 40 youll be this guy


She'll be



Tattoo or no tattoo. As long as you dont get her pregnant this will work itself out

Thats my 2 cents. Best of luck