Quote: (01-03-2017 12:07 PM)RexImperator Wrote:  

Well, I just got the massive "wall of text" breakup message, so that's that I guess.

Part of me was expecting it. I had a sense it was coming after a certain odd text last night.

I dropped a lot of red pill ideas in a recent conversation that I don't think went over very well.

This happens to any and all players. Don't beat yourself up about it.

What you should do now, and actually should already have been doing for the past few weeks as other suggested, is focus on maintaining your momentum by approaching other girls. Ask any guy here. Girls can smell it on you.

You now have a little more experience under your belt, which is great.

But if you continue to postpone and act reticent towards approaching it's going to be much harder to build it up again form scratch.

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This happens to any and all players.

What does that mean exactly? I mean, I'm hardly a "player".

Quote: (01-03-2017 12:23 PM)RexImperator Wrote:  

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This happens to any and all players.

What does that mean exactly? I mean, I'm hardly a "player".

Any guy that bangs girls is susceptible to getting dumped, ghosted or however you want to put it, simply because there are variables that cannot be controlled.

"Losing", if you can even call it that, is part of playing any game.

Nevermind this stuff though.

Worry only about making one approach today. And another tomorrow, and so on.

My monetary/budgetary situation is extremely low for the next few weeks so I was mostly planning on going back to monk/hermit mode.

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This happens to any and all players.

What does that mean exactly? I mean, I'm hardly a "player".

We are all players in the game called Life whether we are cognizant or not. Women are just one of the aspects of it.

In the game of football (cheesy analogy I know) even the winning-est player drops a pass, fumbles, or throws an in-completion. Winning, by definition, then means they get right back in there for another play

Thats what Rocha (and others) are suggesting

As far as this one,,,I suggest you dont respond to that "wall of text" AT ALL. She'll likely ruminate on it for a day or two and reach back out to you

Quote: (01-03-2017 12:43 PM)RexImperator Wrote:  

My monetary/budgetary situation is extremely low for the next few weeks so I was mostly planning on going back to monk/hermit mode.

Ouch.

How much money do you need to drive down to a Whole Foods-type supermarket, approach a girl, get on your car and back?

Or go to a mall and talk to a cute girl on the hallway or ask for her opinion on a shirt you "would like to give as a present"?

Or to go for a quick jog at the park, if weather allows, and spark up a conversation with a chick walking her dog?

Or to create a Tinder/OKC/Bumble/Happn account?

I mean this with love but you always have an excuse or justification.

Money is not a deterrent. Your mindset is.

If you want to keep banging you have to get to work.

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If you want to keep banging you have to get to work.

That's the thing. I was going to post about this a few days ago, but didn't get around to it.

I haven't been that into having sex. I mean, in the moment and when she was with me in private I could feel in the mood after making out and work up quite the urge but otherwise I don't care too much. Some mornings, maybe once or twice a week, I'll wake up horny and have a wank but otherwise, "meh..."

After she dropped a little pregnancy scare story because of me busting inside her without a rubber I was also thinking, "hmm, maybe this is a really bad idea- I don't need this now."

Quote: (01-03-2017 01:43 PM)RexImperator Wrote:  

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If you want to keep banging you have to get to work.

That's the thing. I was going to post about this a few days ago, but didn't get around to it.

I haven't been that into having sex. I mean, in the moment and when she was with me in private I could feel in the mood after making out and work up quite the urge but otherwise I don't care too much. Some mornings, maybe once or twice a week, I'll wake up horny and have a wank but otherwise, "meh..."

After she dropped a little pregnancy scare story because of me busting inside her without a rubber I was also thinking, "hmm, maybe this is a really bad idea- I don't need this now."

Ok, so what do you need now?
Another 12 years without dating, in heremit mode? Life is just one, you wont have a second chance to do the things you could have done in this life. But hey, if you do not like sex, well, thats how you feel and no one can do nothing about it.

Contrary to many others, I found this thread depressing, with your constant excuses and self loathing. Maybe this was all an hoax and you did not banged, maybe you bang a lot and just wrote this thread to have some fun, or maybe this is all true and you really do not like sex and intimacy.

Anyway, all of this is depressing. Over and out.

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Another 12 years without dating, in hermit mode?

No. I was thinking a few weeks.

Here's what's going on: I have a few weeks off to do nothing before the semester starts, when all of a sudden I will be very busy and it looks like I will have to start looking for an apartment, and find one fast.

Until then I will have almost no money, neither for gas, food, or obviously, a security deposit.

Also I'm curious about the "self loathing" comment. I've been accused of that a few times before but I have to admit I don't think I understand it. (Seriously)

Everything I wrote is true.

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I haven't been that into having sex. I mean, in the moment and when she was with me in private I could feel in the mood after making out and work up quite the urge but otherwise I don't care too much. Some mornings, maybe once or twice a week, I'll wake up horny and have a wank but otherwise, "meh..."

All this tells me is that the chick is below your standard, Rex. Your dick doesn't lie to you. It's not sex you don't like, it's this dumpy ass broad. Next her and upgrayyd.

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As far as this one,,,I suggest you dont respond to that "wall of text" AT ALL. She'll likely ruminate on it for a day or two and reach back out to you.

Well, rereading it, it's a "wondering if we're right for each other" and not a goodbye but a "looking for a conversation". Apparently I didn't build enough comfort/make her feel secure enough and she's mad I avoided meeting her parents etc.
I guess I overdid it on the gamey stuff.

Quote: (01-03-2017 05:27 PM)RexImperator Wrote:  

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As far as this one,,,I suggest you dont respond to that "wall of text" AT ALL. She'll likely ruminate on it for a day or two and reach back out to you.

Well, rereading it, it's a "wondering if we're right for each other" and not a goodbye but a "looking for a conversation". Apparently I didn't build enough comfort/make her feel secure enough and she's mad I avoided meeting her parents etc.
I guess I overdid it on the gamey stuff.

Perhaps she's feeling she's in "cares more" position and is trying to get a read on where you are?

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Perhaps she's feeling she's in "cares more" position and is trying to get a read on where you are?

Yes, a little while ago she said that I'm "very hard to read" in that way. To which I said "I kind of like sound of that." Then I explained that I do have an aloof personality. Which is true.

Quote: (01-03-2017 07:00 PM)RexImperator Wrote:  

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Perhaps she's feeling she's in "cares more" position and is trying to get a read on where you are?

Yes, a little while ago she said that I'm "very hard to read" in that way. To which I said "I kind of like sound of that." Then I explained that I do have an aloof personality. Which is true.

The you're in the "keep her" (for now) or "throw her back" position...much better than "I just got dumped" spot...seems to me

Rex.

If you're not into her don't waste her or your time. Don't wait at all to game new girls though.

Take the momentum you have now and use it on these new girls. To get pussy you don't need money. Girls will smell the pussy and confidence on you.

I think another issue here is that you have low T. Just the lack of sex drive is a glaring symptom. You may want to schedule appointment to get that checked out. Not just for sex but your overall health.

And another thing rex:

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I dropped a lot of red pill ideas in a recent conversation that I don't think went over very well.

Don't do this. Never overtly state red pill beliefs to a girl, especially one you're fucking. You live the red pill and show it through your actions but NO GOOD EVER CAME of verbalizing it to a woman.

^ Agreed.

It shouldn't come as any shock red pill ideas wouldn't be well-received by a woman. Fuck, nowadays they don't even go over very well with a great number of men, unfortunately.

Let's face it, though -- most women are about as deep as a puddle. They're not seeking enlightenment, they enjoy being blissfully ignorant of reality. Reality is the realm of men, not women and children. Any attempt to clue them in to what's really going on in the world will not be met positively, as you'll only be bursting their delusional bubble. Expecting a woman to swallow the red pill and be grateful is virtually the same as telling a kid Santa Claus doesn't exist, and thinking they'll thank you for it.

I also mentioned that I thought male feminists were a bit

Another thing that may be playing a role here is that she said she forgot to take her birth control pills for a couple of days. I wonder if that caused a hormonal surge of sorts.

I agree on getting my T checked. I plan to do that once I get some money coming in.

Quote: (01-01-2017 06:24 PM)RexImperator Wrote:  

a job opportunity has come my way that if it works out, should allow me to find a place closer to the city.

Awesome. Move closer to the city!

Quote: (01-02-2017 11:35 PM)RexImperator Wrote:  

I think I feel fatter.

Keep striving to eat better!

You can lose weight without going to the gym, IF YOU EAT HIGHER QUALITY FOOD! (and move/walk alot)

Quote: (01-03-2017 12:07 PM)RexImperator Wrote:  

Well, I just got the massive "wall of text" breakup message, so that's that I guess.

Oh well, time to move on..

Quote: (01-03-2017 12:07 PM)RexImperator Wrote:  

I dropped a lot of red pill ideas in a recent conversation that I don't think went over very well.

Lololol ! Self-sabotage? You were never REALLY attracted to her anyways!

Ironically, "not being afraid to lose her" actually assisted you in getting this bang!

But yeah.. Talking red pills ideas on a date can be a risky move.

Quote: (01-03-2017 12:23 PM)RexImperator Wrote:  

I'm hardly a "player".

I respect your honesty here..

Chasing pussy, as a hobby, is a choice.

Quote: (01-03-2017 01:43 PM)RexImperator Wrote:  

I haven't been that into having sex.

That's okay... Sex drive can fluctuate depending on life circumstances..

You just got out of a "relationship"! Ha! Take some time to reflect and get yourself in order!

I see nothing wrong with that. You'll get back to pursing sex when you're ready.

Quote: (01-03-2017 01:43 PM)RexImperator Wrote:  

I was also thinking, "hmm, maybe this is a really bad idea- I don't need this now."

You don't need any bullshit, at all.

If she is not comfortable with a casual, "friends with benefits" type of situation...

Too bad for her.

Quote: (01-03-2017 05:27 PM)RexImperator Wrote:  

Apparently I didn't build enough comfort/make her feel secure enough and she's mad I avoided meeting her parents etc.

I guess I overdid it on the gamey stuff.

You did overdue it on some "gamey" stuff a little bit but so what, fuck it!

Lessons learned! Drought over! Now, you can improve your life in some other area WHILE STILL MENTALLY STAYING AWARE OF FUTURE SEXUAL OPPORTUNITIES WHICH MAY PRESENT THEMSELVES!

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Rex,

I like where your head is at.

I know a lot of people disagree with me but I don't see a problem with taking a TEMPORARY break from gaming.

Getting a better job closer to the city will open up many options!

Good luck with everything and continue to trust your instincts and do what feels best for you.

As others have said, don't lose any sleep over losing this girl. Odds are she may even reach back out to you at some point.

I'm curious though, why the hell did you bust a nut inside of her? Thought we told you earlier in the thread to get some condoms!

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you're in the "keep her" (for now) or "throw her back" position...much better than "I just got dumped" spot...seems to me

This turned out to be the case and we patched things up...she needed some comfort. I actually gave her a couple of compliments, the first ones yet.

The sex has actually gotten a little more interesting.

Quote: (01-10-2017 06:31 PM)RexImperator Wrote:  

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you're in the "keep her" (for now) or "throw her back" position...much better than "I just got dumped" spot...seems to me

This turned out to be the case and we patched things up...she needed some comfort. I actually gave her a couple of compliments, the first ones yet.

The sex has actually gotten a little more interesting.

In what way?

She putting it down to keep you around.

Quote: (01-10-2017 06:31 PM)RexImperator Wrote:  

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you're in the "keep her" (for now) or "throw her back" position...much better than "I just got dumped" spot...seems to me

This turned out to be the case and we patched things up...she needed some comfort. I actually gave her a couple of compliments, the first ones yet.

The sex has actually gotten a little more interesting.

As someone following this thread from the start, this is bittersweet. I was kind of hoping the two of you were done.

Obviously you're free to do whatever makes you happy, so if getting back to this girl does, all the power to you.

But from your posts, I get that you are very complacent about life. You don't seem to enjoy pushing yourself and being uncomfortable - hence the long dryspell in the first place.

Not everyone's a risk taker, wants to bang 100 girls, and so on. I get it.

Now you've got a chick who you sorta dig, and who you can get sex from on the regular.

This is like being unemployed for a decade and getting a job at 7-Eleven. Yeah, it's a job. Yeah, it's stable. But there's so much more out there.

If you want to keep at it with her, just don't anything stupid - raw dog, bust inside, ask her to move in, etc.

Also, I should add I really enjoy your candidness. It's hard to be outspoken in a forum with so many egos flying around - props to you Rex.

Looks like you've got yourself a girlfriend

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Quote: (01-11-2017 12:47 PM)PapayaTapper Wrote:  

you're in the "keep her" (for now) or "throw her back" position...much better than "I just got dumped" spot...seems to me

This turned out to be the case and we patched things up...she needed some comfort. I actually gave her a couple of compliments, the first ones yet.

The sex has actually gotten a little more interesting.

Once again Uncle Wayne's axiom is proven: "If there's one thing you learn here tonight it's this. The power in a relationship lies with whoever cares less"

Never gets old