Quote: (11-26-2015 11:08 PM)Roardog Wrote:  

Surely thirst contracts this though? They've got a never ending supply of dudes knocking on their door.
I'm sure this girl could have/did replace me in an instant when I flaked on her.

Sure there's plenty of orbiters out there for any girl.
Yet an orbiter does not make a proverbial / fantastical 'prince charming'.
Plus an orbiter is not certain to make a chick - 'haaappy'.
& an orbiter is just as likely to encounter flakes as anyone else.

Trying to line up some plates in addition to the "main" girl I'm seeing now. Met this cute teacher out on Wednesday at the bar. Thought it went well, hit her up this evening to see what she was getting into..no response. May throw a hail Mary out in the future but otherwise this is looking like a strong next.

I can handle being flaked on , what is really pissing me off is the no response text !

Girl : Hey how are you .
Cosworth: good lets meet up , friday 8 pm ?
Girl : sure see you 8pm friday , looking fwd to it .
Cosworth : fri(am) hey you still good for tonight @ 8pm
Girl : no fucking response to message !

What is wrong with these girls , just make up an excuse , I don't care , but don't waste my time.

I now schedule two dates for the same night , as 9 times out of 10 one girl will bail !

Quote: (11-28-2015 08:51 PM)cosworth Wrote:  

I can handle being flaked on , what is really pissing me off is the no response text !

Girl : Hey how are you .
Cosworth: good lets meet up , friday 8 pm ?
Girl : sure see you 8pm friday , looking fwd to it .
Cosworth : fri(am) hey you still good for tonight @ 8pm
Girl : no fucking response to message !

What is wrong with these girls , just make up an excuse , I don't care , but don't waste my time.

I now schedule two dates for the same night , as 9 times out of 10 one girl will bail !

Yep.
Always have a back-up plan, even if they come across as positive.

Although, on the morning of a planned outing I go with :
"Hey, see you at 8pm."

More direct, less of a question. Still no guarantee though.

One pattern I notice re: girls from Tinder flaking...

Any girl who shows excessive vulnerability in order to catch my interest and build trust/rapport, is more likely to flake. ie. The more effort she makes seem down to earth or "sick of all the bullshit". I think there's a type who actually gets off on building and then crushing men's hopes. I've actually conditioned myself to glean some modicum of satisfaction from knowing which girls are going to flake.

Quote: (07-13-2015 12:49 AM)Suits Wrote:  

Just got the funniest text from a girl who had I'd gotten in contact with via online dating. She was fairly eager to meet me previously, which makes that text I got a bit of a shocker:

"Sorry, I don't wanna meet up any more. Good luck with u."

I'd forgotten about this post until someone "liked" it today.

I actually ended up banging this girl. I sent her occasional texts inviting her to larger group events and parties in the two months after she cancelled on me without expectation.

She never responded to these, but then unexpectedly got back in touch, rescheduled dinner with me and spread her legs nice and wide for me later that night.

The least tight pussy I've encountered here in China, but still lots of fun in bed.

Upon being questioned, she admitted that my friendly texts, inviting her to parties, had made her feel bad for cancelling on me and prompted her to regret her decision.

Interestingly, she ended up being a massive slut.

Last week, got the hour-before-meetup 'My grandfather got rushed to the hospital today' text.

then a Thanksgiving text. I'm not answering.

Annoyed by this one. Arranged to meet girl for a drink tonight this afternoon. 4 hours later she flakes, her excuse? She felt lazy when she got home from work. At least she was honest I guess.

Depending on the flake rate of the country, you must either double- or triple book dates. In Russia I double-book, as a flake is possible but relatively unlikely. In the West you must triple-book, as a flake is much more likely. If you do this right, you won't even notice flakes, they just become a quirk of the culture.

Quote: (12-03-2015 06:53 AM)Jesus Christ Wrote:  

Depending on the flake rate of the country, you must either double- or triple book dates. In Russia I double-book, as a flake is possible but relatively unlikely. In the West you must triple-book, as a flake is much more likely. If you do this right, you won't even notice flakes, they just become a quirk of the culture.

This is sadly true. One of my best Tinder dates was when I triple booked. One flaked, leaving me with two, so I went with the one that seemed more enthusiastic.

Quote: (11-28-2015 09:25 PM)CynicalContrarian Wrote:  

Quote: (11-28-2015 08:51 PM)cosworth Wrote:  

I can handle being flaked on , what is really pissing me off is the no response text !

Girl : Hey how are you .
Cosworth: good lets meet up , friday 8 pm ?
Girl : sure see you 8pm friday , looking fwd to it .
Cosworth : fri(am) hey you still good for tonight @ 8pm
Girl : no fucking response to message !

What is wrong with these girls , just make up an excuse , I don't care , but don't waste my time.

I now schedule two dates for the same night , as 9 times out of 10 one girl will bail !

Yep.
Always have a back-up plan, even if they come across as positive.

Although, on the morning of a planned outing I go with :
"Hey, see you at 8pm."

More direct, less of a question. Still no guarantee though.

I'm supposed to have a date tonight. What is the best way to handle an extremely likely (but not confirmed) flaking experience? When a girl who you are certain is on her phone allllll day hasn't responded to your confirmation text after 6+ hours, what do you do?

Secondary confirmation:
"?"
"OK?"
"Well?"

Make it sound like you're showing up at the venue no matter what:
"Leaving work now, should be there by 9"
"I'll pick you by 830"
"I'm outside your bedroom window, you almost ready?" (Kidding)

Or just don't contact her at all and let her wonder about it (on the off-chance she pays it any mind at all)?

Quote: (01-05-2016 10:04 AM)Eddie Winslow Wrote:  

Quote: (11-28-2015 09:25 PM)CynicalContrarian Wrote:  

Quote: (11-28-2015 08:51 PM)cosworth Wrote:  

I can handle being flaked on , what is really pissing me off is the no response text !

Girl : Hey how are you .
Cosworth: good lets meet up , friday 8 pm ?
Girl : sure see you 8pm friday , looking fwd to it .
Cosworth : fri(am) hey you still good for tonight @ 8pm
Girl : no fucking response to message !

What is wrong with these girls , just make up an excuse , I don't care , but don't waste my time.

I now schedule two dates for the same night , as 9 times out of 10 one girl will bail !

Yep.
Always have a back-up plan, even if they come across as positive.

Although, on the morning of a planned outing I go with :
"Hey, see you at 8pm."

More direct, less of a question. Still no guarantee though.

I'm supposed to have a date tonight. What is the best way to handle an extremely likely (but not confirmed) flaking experience? When a girl who you are certain is on her phone allllll day hasn't responded to your confirmation text after 6+ hours, what do you do?

Secondary confirmation:
"?"
"OK?"
"Well?"

Make it sound like you're showing up at the venue no matter what:
"Leaving work now, should be there by 9"
"I'll pick you by 830"
"I'm outside your bedroom window, you almost ready?" (Kidding)

Or just don't contact her at all and let her wonder about it (on the off-chance she pays it any mind at all)?

If you want to get a definite answer from a chick I've had luck with "I'll see you there at 8! I'll meet you inside." or some variation of that. This lets them know you're turning up - and if they're not a complete and utter cunt - they're going to have to let you know they're not coming.

I would sometimes send a "?" text if get no response. Otherwise yes can say "Hey running a few minutes late, 8:10 cool?" or something of that nature.

The more I do game the more I realise however that the best form of contact with women is no contact. Get them to contact you, get them to initiate dates. That only comes with abundance and a care free attitude to them.

Think about this if you double booked her would you be texting her a follow up message when you have another girl lined up? Probably not. So here's your solution double/triple book dates.

The less you care the better.

In general, the best text you can send is no text.

I wish I read this thread earlier.
Got flaked on.
Made plans with this chick yesterday, for today.
She was cool with basic day/time. I sent off the location and time and haven't heard from her since.
Radio silence.

But this thread is gold

Thread is definitely gold. Had a second date lined up the other day with this mint little old. 1 hour before get a text. I'm sick and have a fever.

No reschedule. I won't delete her number but she is going to the bottom of the pile. Her loss mango.

Got one setup for tomorrow..23yo blonde nice rack. Already told her dress and heels she said ok. I will update as it unfolds that is if she dont flake.

Triple booked for tonight all from online.

My preferred (Asian) option flaked. Then it was down to some SA girl and OKCupid girl at 39. I chose the latter (I always choose over an SA girl as half of them end up being prostitutes even if they say they aren't). OKCupid girl was boring as fuck and I went home, must screen better for girls on the cock carousel.

Welp...calling it now.

Asian 6.8 (my last was a 7), flaked after giving me the day she was free, she never followed up with me on the logistics. Will no longer waste my time with her.

Black 6.8 (after looking at her pics again, its probably for the best). She gave me two days but hasn't followed up since Wednesday night.

Need new cold approach leads.

Mexican 6.5 flaked. Had a coffee date set up with her and she forgot about it. Texted me telling me she was sorry and that she could meet up again in a few, but I told her no and rescheduled (even though I was free).

Getting used to saying "no" to women more often.

Ok just got done eating lunch with 20 something chick. She showed up was pleasant smiled and fun to talk to. Had nice heels on but did not wear the dress. This one is setup to bang next meet. She went on about 20 something dudes with no ambition no future and low level jobs even though they have a degree and they dont even care per her.
Looked like a typical frat chick but a little more grown up. This one could be my new 3 hole wonder.

I got hit with this high-octane flake over the weekend! I call this "the goth girl flake":

"hey. so I'm sorry I didn't text you earlier...my mom's friend apparently tried to commit suicide and I just got off the phone with her"

Yep, you should definitely be trying to play the role of mental health professional.

It's either true, or one of the more psychotic flake excuses I've come across. No way to know, but number deleted. A bitch who would make up that thing to flake on a date would drop a false rape accusation just as easy. Dodged a bullet right there.

It always starts with sorry and ends in some bullshit excuse.

I had a flake myself on Tinder a few days ago. She gave me this long shpiel about how she just broke up with her boyfriend is confused and other nonsense after we had agreed when to meet and after she told me how much she's looking forward to it. I completely ignored her and didn't reply. I went on a date with another girl I double booked her with. Two days later she texts again to apologise, told me she feels better now and wants to "hook up". Silence is golden. You can however bet she'll most likely flake again.

Quote: (01-17-2016 07:54 PM)Vincent Chase Wrote:  

It always starts with sorry and ends in some bullshit excuse.

I had a flake myself on Tinder a few days ago. She gave me this long shpiel about how she just broke up with her boyfriend is confused and other nonsense after we had agreed when to meet and after she told me how much she's looking forward to it. I completely ignored her and didn't reply. I went on a date with another girl I double booked her with. Two days later she texts again to apologise, told me she feels better now and wants to "hook up". Silence is golden. You can however bet she'll most likely flake again.

Haha, yeah, I got the "I'm not in a good head space now and I'm pretty confused so I don't think I want to see you this weekend" thing from a girl I was hooking up with. I just said "np I understand" and I didn't say a word for a month and a half. Then I hit her with a "restart" and two hours later I was banging her in her apartment...

But now is the season...NOW IS THE SEASON...for the "sorry. I've suddenly come down with/have the worst head cold" flake. Got that one twice already!

One was from a girl I spent probably 45 min. on OKCupid over the course of two days dragging a number out of. It's as if they don't even value their own time, either. To go off on a bit of a related tangent, I've come to the conclusion that with OKC unless you can chat with her for a bit while she's online, grab a number, and book a date right then and there, you're pretty much dead in the water. Shit that drags out over days almost never leads anywhere.

Got this one tonight from an online chick:

"no! I have a bocce game that night. try again"

These psychos are just straight up fucking with me now. I...I don't know how much longer I can keep this up. My therapy bills are going to be astronomical.

She's telling you to try again instead of giving you a day she's free? Lol. XPQ22, I've found that the harder a girl makes it for you to meet, the least interested she is in meeting you...or anyone for that matter. Even after girls giving me days they were free and flaking, I no longer expect them to stick to anything. Play those numbers.