Picture a woman 43 y/o, divorced, 3 kids, not fat, but not athletic, and good teeth. Trashy over-bleached blonde hair and Irish-American skin showing the effects of sun damage over the years. Looks half-decent from far away until you get closer and notice the details. Shows up at the club with a fat ham-beast friend in tow who makes you want to throw up. No game really required other than eye-contact and saying hi. Dad has the kids this weekend so she obviously went out looking to get fucked and probably does this every other weekend.

What is the forum recommendation on something like this? Is it better to stick up for your standards or just go with the flow?

Life is too short to bang 25 year olds, let alone a 43 year old single mom.

Do her.
She's not going to push for anything beyond a bang.

Now, if you can get her friend to lick your sack while she's on top...

Oh man. That's a tricky one.

It really depends on how horny you are at that moment. I went full low quality before but just because it had to be done so I embrace it. lol

I regret nothin'.

I don't care about the age as long as the woman has a good personality and body. >> I was banging a 41 years old for a while because she qualified in my list. Fit, no kids, so, kind of different story from yours.

The official response is to not lower yourself.

Most guys would bang. The hidden danger is that she's a champ in the sack, ensnaring you in a world of whisky and sloppy bjs.

WIA

I think the better question is why are you having a dry spell?

If the answer is because of business, studies, or something else which is really important, then fair enough, go for the bang, get it out of your system and go back to work/studies, but don't make it a habit.

Quote: (07-13-2015 11:58 AM)WestIndianArchie Wrote:  

The official response is to not lower yourself.

Most guys would bang. The hidden danger is that she's a champ in the sack, ensnaring you in a world of whisky and sloppy bjs.

WIA

A blow job in the parking lot never hurt nobody.

You are asking which of 2 shitty options should you settle for.

Maybe you shouldn't settle for either. Maybe you should put your game into overdrive and go slay some pussy. Even if you end up with a 34yo single mom who looks a little better, you'll feel like you accomplished something and boost your confidence for the next time you are out.

This can be summed up in so many questions...

Relax vs work hard question
Masturbate or go approach question.
Stay in shitty relationship or go get a new one
Develop a business vs stay in shitty job

Go bang her but don't let yourself believe you improved your lot in life. Look at it like masturbating, not upping your game.

Sometimes you just have to relax / dumpster dive / masturbate / make some scratch at shitty job. But sometimes ya gotta cut that lifeline and take some risks and work hard.

So you fucked her or what?

Just like smoking a joint. You hit it and pass it to your homie.

beware of this situation. It's a trap. Just recognize it for what it is.

If it no or low effort, ok, enjoy.

But if you continue to operate with lower standards for whatever reason - you will one day get rejected, repeatedly, by women who are "below you" - and that is an ego hit most men are not ready to take.

Quote: (07-13-2015 12:17 PM)heavy Wrote:  

So you fucked her or what?

We chatted for a while. She kept on staring at me with the "fuck me" eyes but I was mostly non-reactive... She told me I was cute, and would be "hot" if I shaved of my beard. At one point she told me to kiss her and I said, "No." I didn't like how she was kind of leading the interaction but I guess she was frustrated by me not escalating. Or just really horny. Apparently she was trying to find a seat so we could snuggle up but the seats were all reserved. Eventually she wanted me to wait for her while she went to the ladies' room. I went to the men's room at the same time and when I came out she was still in there so I decided to bail and ditched her. I guess you could say I made the choice of voluntary celibacy, for now.

To bang or not to bang. That is the question.

It's just sex. You shoulda it.

Nope. WNB.

Not factoring in fat ham beast friend cock blocking you also.

Quote: (07-13-2015 11:19 AM)LouEvilSlugger Wrote:  

Life is too short to bang 25 year olds, let alone a 43 year old single mom.

How old are you?

I never regretted any ugly or even overweight lizards I banged. Even after I had moments of sickness as I looked at her in the morning.

I only regret the girls I haven't fucked - those are burned in my mind (the near misses are especially harsh). The lizards - heck at least they were somewhat fun experiences.

^^Post of the day.

Let's refer to the graph gentlemen. 5's to 8's are bangable.

I sometimes get the feeling on the forum that some guys here are just a lot less horny than me. If a chick is throwing herself at me, or if I approach her and she's making it reasonably easy on me, damn right I'm going to try to bang her, assuming she passes the boner test. I love to fuck, why would I pass up the opportunity?

Some guys seem to have a lot of ego investment in the ratings of the girls they bang, or they feel social pressure to only be seen talking to "hot" girls. Or they mistakenly believe that banging average girls somehow prevents you from also banging really hot girls, which is a complete fallacy.

I also don't get the reluctance to bang single mothers. So what if a baby shot out of the pussy 5 or 10 or 15 years before? You're not marrying or even dating her, you're just having fun for a night, so what possible difference does it make?

I suspect it often has to do with length of time and success in the game. Guys who haven't had as much fear getting trapped at a low level of quality and need the ego boost of being with a really attractive girl. Guys who have had plenty of notches and banged lots of good looking girls don't mind an average girl sometimes- as Parley said-it's just sex.

You guys need to understand some nights you're going to eat steak au poivre and some nights it's meatloaf and it's fine.

Well I said I WNB, never said I wouldn't get a BJ, fatties give some of the greatest sloppiest BJ's ever.

"Losing" out on a possible bang with a trashy chick isn't ever going to be burned into my mind or a regret, only a hot one I didn't approach or fucked up on (which of course has happened)

I don't think it's about ego boost, in fact I'd say it's the reverse of what you're saying.

Guy's with low notch counts will try nailing everything because....they have a low notch county and want to to boost that number/ego up. I know I did that.

There comes a point where you've had enough notch counts you go for quality and higher standards from then on out, you wouldn't care if you passed on a fatty or a sub 7 girl.

In this particular case proposed, I'd pass, it'd obviously be different in other instances.

Quote: (07-14-2015 01:57 PM)MrXY Wrote:  

You guys need to understand some nights you're going to eat steak au poivre and some nights it's meatloaf and it's fine.

I'd agree if I had complete financial freedom, had plenty of spare time with my friends and family, had spare time to donate to worthwhile causes, mastered or was on my way to mastering all my desired hobbies, unlimited time to travel and so on.

It's not that I am above meatloaf. It's that I don't have time for it and risking pregnancy and STD's doesn't make sense. The older I get the more I am aware of this.

I'd rather fantasize about a hot chick.

Even a 5 if you meet her out at a club or through Tinder you are usually drinking, spending some money, and even if she comes straight to your door at least a few hours away from focusing on more important things.

All bangs are equal.

Quote: (07-14-2015 04:26 PM)Pride male Wrote:  

All bangs are equal.

Expand on that, how ?

All women aren't equal
All women don't bang the same
All women aren't pornstars

etc.

Our orgasms aren't the same with different women either.
We don't cum in every girl or cum in general with every girl.

^^Ok. Maybe they are not all equal. But it is something I just tell myself if I am having a dry spell.

The thing about my droughts is that they affect my 1 to 10 scale. 5s start looking 7s and 7s like 9s.