[BackToBasics]

http://www.boston.com/lifestyle/relation...manly.html

"We've begun to talk about marriage but one thing bothers me: I worry that he's not "manly" enough.

What I mean is that often times I feel like I'm the one in the relationship who does the things a guy should do..."

"...I know I must sound like some woman out of the 50s, but what I want to know is that my potential husband would protect me from a pack of wild dogs (or zombies) and not run in the opposite direction. Is this a deal-breaker? Am I being over-analytical? Over-critical?"

The response? It's cool so long as he cuddles and compliments.

"Ask yourself whether he's compassionate and thoughtful. That's all that matters. You have every right to expect empathy, but no one in their right mind would fight off zombies. Better to be with the guy who gives you a big romantic kiss and then takes you into the zombie-proof hideaway that he paid a real handyman (or handywoman) to build.

If he lacks compassion, you have something to worry about."

Beam me up bros. The Feminist Establishment has won this country.

[Deluge]

Relationship experts like this "Meredith Goldstein" destroy more relationships then they fix, the only worse profession is the so called "marriage counselling".

[Samseau]

Of course it's from Boston... I swear to Christ we've got some of the biggest mangina's in the world here. Luckily our women aren't as cunty as they are in New York or D.C., but the men are just pathetic.

[Handsome Creepy Eel]

I dunno, if women actually preferred cuddling & complimenting I'd be way happier. The problem is that women say that they want that, but go for the opposite. This columnist is just giving her reasonable advice that the asker won't follow (because she's a woman and women never appreciate those things, duh), but that doesn't make the advice bad. I don't know what she was supposed to write, "be happy you've found someone who cares about you and shut up, or just commit suicide?"

[germanico]

"Plus, he will provide an excellent source of protein once the zombie apocalypse comes."

[BackToBasics]

The thing that really got me is that the female is making very reasonable non-contraversial critiques about her lazy boytoy. He outright fails various "good neighbor" and "man of the house" scenarios, and this doesn't bother the columnist one bit.

The middle two examples are just inexcusable on so many levels:

"During the recent snow storm, our neighbor, an elderly person, was outside shoveling snow. My boyfriend said he was sick and went to bed. I went out and helped instead.

I got a flat tire. We called AAA and waited. In the meantime, an old man had stopped to help. He insisted on helping us change the tire. My boyfriend stood by and watched. When I asked him about it later, his response was: "He didn't have to do it."

Tragically enough, this female actually does the civic'ly right thing in all of the provided scenarios, yet the columnist doesn't even bother to affirm her on it. A seemingly level-headed female gets converted to a selfish feminist right before your eyes!

And here's especially where the advice fails...

"..it's about whether he's thoughtful and chivalrous."

Either the columnist doesn't know what that word actually means, or she thinks "chivalry" only applies to romantic relationships.

So what if your boytoy doesn't give a shit about his fellow mankind? If he has money, and is nice to you, you have no grounds to complain.

Man exists to serve woman. And so dies Western Civilization.

[Alpha]

As a close friend of mine once said, "You can have women's rights, or you can have civilization - but you don't get both."

[Basil Ransom]

Nothing she said about him is explicitly beta. I don't know how to change a tire, but that doesn't mean I act like a bitch.

All that that she said may sound unmanly, but he could be one sly mofo when it comes to women. Your body, your style, your posture, your comportment, your pitch tone and cadence, your cockiness... they all matter a whole lot more than being able to screw in a light bulb.

But if the chick is complaining about him being insufficiently manly, he probably doesn't have those things going on either.