[Riker]

Lets say you've been with a girl a couple times, so she's kind of a fuck buddy. You invite her to do something one day and she cancels on you on the day of the thing without suggesting another day or anything. Her message is

"I can't make it! Sorry!"

I reply with "OK"

I feel a little disrespected cause I had set this up on tuesday for a thursday meet and I could have organized something with someone else perhaps.

Now game says I should wait for however long for her to message me or if a month passes just message her cause there's nothing to lose.

Its been a week and I'd like to invite her over again and see if she bites, I'm rationalizing that if by messaging her again instead of waiting on her makes me lose her, well its not that big a loss anyways.

So should I go for it anyways? Wait another week or two? Maybe even a month or two?

Right now she's my only fuck buddy so its the reason I'm bringing it up. I almost secured a second but it fell through. Thoughts on what I should do?

[Gmac]

What do you have to lose? Go for it once more than move on. Hopefully you have been working on other chicks in the meantime.

[WesternCancer]

What Gmac said. Don't get mad at her when youre asking her to chill or shes out of there. Phone/text her ask her to meet at x time x place etc. see what she says. I also wouldn't advise asking her to the same place. Try some place different, maybe she wasn't feeling the first idea.

[Riker]

Yes Gmac I have been working on lots! I even had a makeout from a first date I got from a street approach

Crazy thing happened... she just texted me with "Youuuu where are you?" This is a week and a day from the last text "ok" I sent her. Looks like she wants to meet up.

I've had a friend say to wait for her to message me and tell her I can't hangout, kind of like she has done in the past to get more control of the relationship and kind of manufacture my own flakiness in lieu of actually having other options.

haha, kind of sad, but it might work. What do you guys think?

[Giovonny]

Good move not contacting her for a week. You showed her that you have other options in your life. (or at least appeared to)

Now that she has re-started things, I think you have to consider 2 things..

1) Her interest level - If you think she is down to get drunk with you, go for it. If she only seems mildly interested and does not want to drink with you, consider flaking on her. Is she talking and behaving like she is looking forward to hanging out with you? Or, is she just answering you with short, simple answers without asking you personal questions in return? Basically, do you think she is DTF or not?

2) Your other options - Got somebody comparable to her who is DTF? Well, if you did, you probably wouldn't be posting this question seeking advice, so I'm going to assume that you don't. In that case, you probably should just go out with her asap. Just make sure you guys drink so its easier to sexualize things.

[Riker]

The text convo went like this

"Youuuu where are you?"

"On my way to the casino. You?"

"I'm home. Whatsup?"

"Everythings good. How did your community service go?" (she had asked me the week before about ideas casue she had to do some... she's in high school)

"Good, I'll tell you about it next time I see you"

"Cool. If you are free tomorrow come by and we'll talk"

I got radio silence after that. She responded pretty quickly to most of my texts while I took my sweet time. No idea why she wouldn't answer my last text nor care too much. The exchange seems okay right?

[Oblivion77]

(10-29-2011 05:35 PM)Riker Wrote:  

The text convo went like this

"Youuuu where are you?"

"On my way to the casino. You?"

"I'm home. Whatsup?"

"Everythings good. How did your community service go?" (she had asked me the week before about ideas casue she had to do some... she's in high school)

"Good, I'll tell you about it next time I see you"

"Cool. If you are free tomorrow come by and we'll talk"

I got radio silence after that. She responded pretty quickly to most of my texts while I took my sweet time. No idea why she wouldn't answer my last text nor care too much. The exchange seems okay right?

The exchange is ok. Dont over-analyze it. Her behavior makes no sense. Big surprise, right? if she doesnt respond to you, just ignore her and move on. Throw a re-start text in a few weeks or so, if you feel like. If she agrees to come out then cancel on her. Your stock is low right now with her, for reasons we ignore.
Dont be affected by it, what you described is quite common: I just had an identical text message exchange with a girl that is super reliable. She suggests to get together, I couldnt (didnt want) to meet her for coffee, so counter-offered something and suddenly she went off the radar. Do I even care to know what is happening or what she is thinking? no, if I were to try to find an explanation or to understand I would have already lost

[CloseEnough]

(11-02-2011 12:23 AM)Oblivion77 Wrote:  

(10-29-2011 05:35 PM)Riker Wrote:  

The text convo went like this

"Youuuu where are you?"

"On my way to the casino. You?"

"I'm home. Whatsup?"

"Everythings good. How did your community service go?" (she had asked me the week before about ideas casue she had to do some... she's in high school)

"Good, I'll tell you about it next time I see you"

"Cool. If you are free tomorrow come by and we'll talk"

I got radio silence after that. She responded pretty quickly to most of my texts while I took my sweet time. No idea why she wouldn't answer my last text nor care too much. The exchange seems okay right?

The exchange is ok. Dont over-analyze it. Her behavior makes no sense. Big surprise, right? if she doesnt respond to you, just ignore her and move on. Throw a re-start text in a few weeks or so, if you feel like. If she agrees to come out then cancel on her. Your stock is low right now with her, for reasons we ignore.
Dont be affected by it, what you described is quite common: I just had an identical text message exchange with a girl that is super reliable. She suggests to get together, I couldnt (didnt want) to meet her for coffee, so counter-offered something and suddenly she went off the radar. Do I even care to know what is happening or what she is thinking? no, if I were to try to find an explanation or to understand I would have already lost

This is my first post here, and I'm eating up how this evolved. Not really knowing anything about game (until very, very recently), I tried to figure out what was wrong and how I could make the situation better. In other words, I generally try to please everyone, especially girls I like... I've got work to do, but I'm excited.

[Amour Fou]

Eventually you go numb. Eventually something in you "dies" and you stop caring. You completely lose all hope and naivity. Eventually you set dates with two girls on the same night to see if at least one shows up, and you still have a plan b and c, may it be go out alone.

Eventually you'll get so through flaky and random/disrespectful behavior that you learn that to base your happiness in life over the responses you get from the opposite sex is the road to endless perdition and suffering.

Eventually you learn that the pedestal has only space for you.

That is the moment of breakthrough.

[ElJefe]

(11-02-2011 04:48 AM)Amour Fou Wrote:  

Eventually you go numb. Eventually something in you "dies" and you stop caring. You completely lose all hope and naivity. Eventually you set dates with two girls on the same night to see if at least one shows up, and you still have a plan b and c, may it be go out alone.

Eventually you'll get so through flaky and random/disrespectful behavior that you learn that to base your happiness in life over the responses you get from the opposite sex is the road to endless perdition and suffering.

Eventually you learn that the pedestal has only space for you.

That is the moment of breakthrough.

Amen.

The community service question was bunk. Don't ask girls that flake questions, in general. Unless it's to figure out whether she's a slut. Then it's OK.

[Riker]

She ended up texting me Monday at 6PM to see if I was home. I saw the text at 7PM told her I was home till 9 and then I had to leave which was true. She said she was coming over. She came over and we banged and talked for a while till 9 and then we split ways as I had somewhere to go. I banged a girl I met Thursday on Sunday at like 1:30 AM (monday morning) and this girl around 8PM monday night. They were bus and subway approaches respectively. Two girls in less than 24 hours from day game. So amazing, a month ago during my 5 month dry spell I literally had thoughts that I would never get laid again. Guys get day game its so amazing!!!

[ElJefe]

(11-02-2011 06:24 AM)Riker Wrote:  

She ended up texting me Monday at 6PM to see if I was home. I saw the text at 7PM told her I was home till 9 and then I had to leave which was true. She said she was coming over. She came over and we banged and talked for a while till 9 and then we split ways as I had somewhere to go. I banged a girl I met Thursday on Sunday at like 1:30 AM (monday morning) and this girl around 8PM monday night. They were bus and subway approaches respectively. Two girls in less than 24 hours from day game. So amazing, a month ago during my 5 month dry spell I literally had thoughts that I would never get laid again. Guys get day game its so amazing!!!

Well done, Riker.

[Riker]

(11-02-2011 06:55 AM)ElJefe Wrote:  

(11-02-2011 06:24 AM)Riker Wrote:  

She ended up texting me Monday at 6PM to see if I was home. I saw the text at 7PM told her I was home till 9 and then I had to leave which was true. She said she was coming over. She came over and we banged and talked for a while till 9 and then we split ways as I had somewhere to go. I banged a girl I met Thursday on Sunday at like 1:30 AM (monday morning) and this girl around 8PM monday night. They were bus and subway approaches respectively. Two girls in less than 24 hours from day game. So amazing, a month ago during my 5 month dry spell I literally had thoughts that I would never get laid again. Guys get day game its so amazing!!!

Well done, Riker.

Thanks!

[Giovonny]

(11-02-2011 04:48 AM)Amour Fou Wrote:  

Eventually you go numb. Eventually something in you "dies" and you stop caring. You completely lose all hope and naivity.

That is the moment of breakthrough.

I don't see it quite the same way. I don't think we go "numb" but rather we become aware of the games girls play. I don't feel like something inside of me "died" but rather something inside of me came to life. I'm am not living to please girls, I am living to please me. I don't see it as a death, I see it as a birth.

Taking girls off the pedastal is not a dark, negative reaction.

Its a beautiful awakening. The only thing that "died" is the old you who had been misinformationed about the nature of women and the role of man.

Developing my Game has made me more hopeful.

[Handsome Creepy Eel]

Giovonny's post makes me very hopeful for my future