Quote: (Yesterday 09:13 PM)PantyPeeler Wrote:
Quote: (Yesterday 08:09 PM)Repo Wrote:
If getting digits messes up the vibe, then there was no vibe.
I get what youre saying. Maybe I didnt put my thoughts down exactly as I intended. I have only been daygaming lately.
I feel like, at times, I shouldnt put the young women on the spot by asking for her number. I am able to build comfort, to varying degrees, and I will ask if I can call her depending on the situation.
I just feel like I'm leaving a lot of pussy on the table when the optics might be off for her to give me her number. Lets say I'm at the supermarket and groups of women her age are milling around.
Maybe I should have my phone out and be playing around with it to make it easier for her.
Bed time stories probably aint going to be it. I have a few other ideas. Was hoping to get some feedback that might help me get more 20 yo hotties.
I appreciate the feedback.
My sense is that you are placing limiting beliefs on yourself due to your age.
The reality is that, yes, some girls will think you are too old for them.
But many girls have older guy fantasies.
Play into that.
Be the cool, older guy who is comfortable and confident in his own reality.
You're telling us you're not going to ask for girls' numbers on principle?
Remember, you project out into the world what you are feeling.
Own it.
The girls who were never going to be interested in you in the first place don't matter.
Focus on taking actions and acting in a way that would be optimal assuming that the girl likes you.
If a girl likes you, it's better to get her number / social media contact info than to give her a business card.
Or actually maybe it's not.
I think you're falling victim to the allure of a "mechanism"
A "mechanism" is a copywriting term. It means some special "hack" or "trick" that is going to get you the results you want. Fix your problems without you having to do any work.
Such as a magic diet pill.
Or "Texting" your ex back (a dating course that was sold by a known internet marketer called Chris Haddad whose PUA name is "Michael Fiore")
These magic tricks ("mechanisms") are fool's gold.
Expect maybe they're not.
(Man, pick a stance Shakeitt...sorry my autism is off the charts today).
See, maybe they're not because like getting a new haircut or clothes or new "trick" or opener, or whatever...it might be marginally more effective than another tactic...but really it could be that it's helping you indirectly via the confidence you get when you use it. Believing in it makes it work (placebo effect).
So I'm not saying you shouldn't play with the business card idea.
But ask yourself if there's a bigger issue you're obscuring by focusing on this one.
For instance, there are a lot of guys who think that getting an awesome Instagram presence is going to be the one trick that gets them laid, or that they won't be able to game without (ridiculous, I know. But there are people on this forum who believe that...ehemm..)
The point is...bro look at the threads on this forum of 40+ guys (like Giovonny) who have had a lot of success with younger women.
Don't disqualify yourself or project negative outcomes on the interaction. Girls will do that for you.
It's the ones who don't you want to be focusing on.
They'll be glad you got their digits.
And they'll be in your bed later.