rooshvforum.network is a fully functional forum: you can search, register, post new threads etc...
Old accounts are inaccessible: register a new one, or recover it when possible. x


How to mentally deal with rude daygame rejections
#1

How to mentally deal with rude daygame rejections

I'm a white daygamer in East Asia, and having some really good results.

However at times I'll do an approach where the girl completely ignores me, walks away, or just looks straight ahead without acknowledging me. Although the majority of my approaches do not go like this, when it does happen it hurts me hard to the core.

Does anyone have any advice on how to mentally handle these kinds of rejections such that I can put it behind me and continue a productive daygame session when it happens.
Reply
#2

How to mentally deal with rude daygame rejections

Always remember that you are the initiator, and that approaching is an end in itself.
We approach to overcome our fear of rejection.

A guy that approaches women and judges his success or failure on her reaction to his approach is going for broke because he is attempting to control that which he has no control over - the girl.
In reality, as long as you walk up to the girl and make your introduction, you win because you've already overcome your fear. It just happens that the girl is the tool we use to complete this exercise in self improvement.

With every approach I make I always tell myself, "let's see how hard she rejects me."
When she doesn't, sure it feels good. But when she does, I really don't care either because I know I've already done all that is within my control: walking up to a girl I find attractive and opening my mouth.

As long as I keep doing that, I'll always be ahead of 99% of other guys.

two scoops
two genders
two terms
Reply
#3

How to mentally deal with rude daygame rejections

approach the girls that want to be approached.
don't approach girls that don't want to be approached.
you might see a girl at one point and she shows no interest then later see her and shes looking at you wanting you to go over.
Reply
#4

How to mentally deal with rude daygame rejections

^^^
It depends. My first girlfriend rejected me the first time i approached her. It even was an indirect approach. A week later i approached her again and it was first date kiss.

It depends how do you measure IoIs.
Reply
#5

How to mentally deal with rude daygame rejections

imo getting IOIs in east asia can be tricky, you don't know if they are looking at you because they like you or because you are "different" or even think you are weird. Asume attraction is probably the best but most risky mentality.

Also asian girls usually take longer to open up as they tend to be more reserved and shy (or just lack social skills - very common nowadays with young girls in general). What might feel as rejection is really just that girl being suprised and nervous. Or she is a bitch - again not your problem to fix.

Do you open them in english? maybe they think you are another sleazy american trying to pick up or just don't like white guys (someone mentioned before that in places like Korea you get negative SMV points for being white, not speaking language etc.)

But overall I would say it's that inner game "don't give a fuck" attitude that you should work on. It's hard and most likely you will not be able to master it, but after a while you get use to rejections and it will not be that painful.
Reply
#6

How to mentally deal with rude daygame rejections

Quote: (Yesterday 08:09 AM)Zoso Wrote:  

It depends how do you measure IoIs.

If you have Netflix watch Alex strangelove and fast forward it to 1.08.24 or 31.16 mins left. even though the guy whos picking up the chick is gay lol he does it correctly. watch the girls eyes. daygame nightgame girls who are down look at guys like this. a majority of the girls wont do this no matter what the fuck you do at that point in time.

so op don't get too upset that girls don't wanna interact with ya. its normal. and the ones that do are in alot of cases just being nice. the small % will want to fuck. then you can still fuck it up like the guy did in the movie cause hes gay and can't get a erection.
Reply
#7

How to mentally deal with rude daygame rejections

Never understood this...

You are YOU and giving women a chance to come into your life...

Some random attractive chick generally isn't meeting much of anyone other than the select few trying to fuck...and even then were talking less than 10 people.

I can only imagine back in 2011 a 6'2 norwegian model looking gal I met on the train where nothing panned out...Do you know what my life entailed a year or 2 onward? Utter BLISS...

Another chick met on train...hipster with big tits n ass such a uniqueness made me think in my hangover state "I'd devour her"...Her IG 6 years later her face isn't attractive (was ok when met her) she shaved her head AND became a lesbian.

Life goes on, if you don't mesh whether it be true or her lack of awareness blocks ever meeting...It isn't your issue.

P.S...I have 0 anxiety or care when it comes to such things. I'm the only constant in my life and I know I can always meet new people, have fun and indulge in sex. I don't need a specific person to join me.
Reply
#8

How to mentally deal with rude daygame rejections

Quote: (Yesterday 09:10 AM)Distant Light Wrote:  

You are YOU and giving women a chance to come into your life...

We do pickup to get something from girls, not to "offer them our value". You can tell that to yourself but you know it's not true.

I mean it's nice textbook redpill but is it really true?

Don't be delusional like fat girls thinking looks don't matter. We all are most likely an average Joes, because high value guys don't spend time on PUA forums. Or are you a famous actor that you can offer value so high that she will chase you? I doubt that - guys of high value don't have to approach on a street, they have girls approaching them.

The moment you cold approach a girl on a street you establish basic social dynamics - do you like what you see? Do you buy my looks/vibe/assets? And you hope she has free cock pipeline / you are better prospect for her. You can influence it a little bit by having good looks, game etc. but it's mostly what that girl thinks at that moment than anything else.

I'm not buying that "outcome indepenedent" and "I'm the prize" bs. We are all needy fuckers desperate to lay some new girls so we can brag about it online. People spend loads of money and time to chase girls. Hell, people travel to SEA shitholes just to get laid - why, because they are so high value back at home? Nope. They travel there to boost their mediocore value to feel like a celebrity. For their own ego masturbation more than anything.
Reply
#9

How to mentally deal with rude daygame rejections

Quote: (Yesterday 02:23 AM)AminoAcid Wrote:  

I'm a white daygamer in East Asia, and having some really good results.

However at times I'll do an approach where the girl completely ignores me, walks away, or just looks straight ahead without acknowledging me. Although the majority of my approaches do not go like this, when it does happen it hurts me hard to the core.

Does anyone have any advice on how to mentally handle these kinds of rejections such that I can put it behind me and continue a productive daygame session when it happens.

Don't assume it is a rejection. Women can be extremely lame. Often, they are just scared, or don't know what to say or do, so they freeze up, play it safe, and do nothing.

Don't take their extreme wimpiness personally. A lot of them are basket cases.

Sometimes, they have the biggest problem knowing what to say or do with the guy they are most attracted to. Idiotic!

Seriously.

Yeah, it feels like rejection, and it might be rejection. It might not though. Why are you taking on board some goofy girl's social paralysis?

“The greatest burden a child must bear is the unlived life of its parents.”

Carl Jung
Reply
#10

How to mentally deal with rude daygame rejections

@Nefarias I've had "back n forth" debates with dudes on similar mindset as you and as I will always say LOSER MENTALITY...

1st I don't use term pickup IRL, I have fun socializing. If you have 0 clue what you offer then you have tons of self-discovery to do. By your logic it is better to work hard making $$$ and do P4P because by your definition the only thing you want is pussy.

It's rather funny because if pussy didn't exist most men would have 0 dealings with women. Hence people act like unattractive women are subhumans...

I know 100% beyond sex, tons of value brought by me being in a woman's life or anyone guy or girl...

Cold approach is merely a TOOL and your street logic sounds like my EX...

Yes you can be foolish hoping your fame gives you connections to the right circle or be born into a favorable situation...I myself connected into a realm OFF COLD APPROACH. While someone may say "lame" that is fine let them stay in their limited bubble as I am unbounded socially.

To paint a picture, in 2016 went to prague and in less than 2 days you'd thought I lived there for months. People inviting me to house parties, private boat party, wanting to have their personal driver show me around...If I was single at that time I would've overdosed on sex.

I'm not some beggar PUA hoping some chick can offer me pussy...

It is SAD you have a shit outlook on your own personal power but again culturally people don't see the value in personal growth.

I'll just leave below what my life was like prior to monogashit, I didn't then nor now have to worry/think about getting laid. Im not your typical guy nor some dude who can fuck lots of chicks because he has favorable connections/money/looks that it has always been like that.

I have the personal power to transcend my social/sex life into whatever I envision...

I'm not typical PUA, I never talk about girls in real life (doesn't stop men from being men trying to tell me about girls)

I don't hangout with PUAs or mentally masturbate about theory...I LIVE, prior to ex-gf hung out with tons of women and very select few dudes who were either connected, knew women, gay/bi/tranny or cool dude who would appeal to female friends I hungout with.






It is HILARIOUS at how unattainable certain things seem to people not realizing pop culture & entertainment is an illusion. I am BROKE, only thing redeeming about myself is my consciousness.

Below at summer jam after party from many years back, bunch of celebs there. Again, I'm not some dude who needs to take pics & snapchat himself to feel cool...I know what I am about.

Managers of clubs have thanked me for coming to their venues because I genuinely go out and have fun

(I'm at 0:39, note al celebs as if that means shit to me)






Again...Some random chick I don't know rejects me on street, club or wherever...

LIFE DOES NOT END, how I process/view/interact with the world doesn't end

(I'm at 1:32)






I'm no one special other than I just grew so much within social/sexual realms.

Despite stress & mental issues due to being in monogashit. One thing that can't be stripped from me is the understanding, knowledge & truths I've gained over time.

Until death, I am the opportunity, I'm a weird dude I crave fun & play. I will never have social or sexual issues for life. It is a tall order for a man to say both...However I explored extensively...

Every person who have come and went even ex-gf doesnt play any impact on the future. It makes me chuckle when some dudes have certain perspective or think something like sex is a huge deal.

10 years from now there will be millions of hot 18-24 year olds...If i survive I will be 40 partying dancing & overdosing on pussy...All in sake of fun & play...

You think id dwell on some chick who ignores me hahaha...Soft humans have no reason being in the social playground if they take it so seriously

P.S...In span of 2011-2013 I had more opps for sex than a person can ever physically have. Have gone as deep as realizing I know how to get private orgies going...I haven't thought about sex or picking up chicks in ages maybe 2009/2010. I haven't been on a so called date since 2011. However, I have had shit ton of social memories that I will day happy knowing I had a great run, even if I did right now. Sadly, I can't die now as I had utter shit experience in monogamy and feel robbed of 4 years of my life
Reply
#11

How to mentally deal with rude daygame rejections

1st off Asian girls can be especially "awkward" (for lack of a better term) and/or closed off, so you really have to not take it personally. You didn't say what country so if you give more specifics (about you, indirect vs direct, and where you are) maybe you'd get more ideas about specific ways to improve your approaches in that culture.



You said you are having some positive responses, so really , you are doing GREAT.. most, over 90%.... of guys do not have the balls to make it as far as you have.

Distant light's perspective might seem a little over the top, not everyone wants to be a party animal etc.. and you could certainly come to the path of "not giving a fuck" and/or extreme confidence by taking a VERY different path than he did. Personally, as someone leaning towards being much more of an introvert, my path towards confidence took a lot more solo time (proving to myself I could achieve personal goals, survive some extreme conditions & personal challenges, etc).

A couple of suggestions I'll thrown out there:
-try different openers--- hand her your phone & ask if she will take a photo of you (one of my favorites for Asian girls).. try more indirect- ask for directions? pet store? coffee shop? nightlife suggestions?
-fake it until you make it (in regards to distant light's type of self confidence).
-don't just "cold" approach...warm up first by generally being more social chatting to all the people around you..cashiers, older women, etc etc..
-try online dating and night night game, social circle, etc to see if you can get a few girls in your rotation.. girls just kind of seem to sense it if you're getting laid regularly, and your vibe/results will improve. If you know you will be getting laid anyway that night, you won't put as much pressure on yourself, and you won't care as much when you do get the weird responses/awkwardness/shyness/rejection.

Good luck & post back!
Reply
#12

How to mentally deal with rude daygame rejections

Quote: (Yesterday 02:35 AM)Barron Wrote:  

Always remember that you are the initiator, and that approaching is an end in itself.
We approach to overcome our fear of rejection.

A guy that approaches women and judges his success or failure on her reaction to his approach is going for broke because he is attempting to control that which he has no control over - the girl.
In reality, as long as you walk up to the girl and make your introduction, you win because you've already overcome your fear. It just happens that the girl is the tool we use to complete this exercise in self improvement.

With every approach I make I always tell myself, "let's see how hard she rejects me."
When she doesn't, sure it feels good. But when she does, I really don't care either because I know I've already done all that is within my control: walking up to a girl I find attractive and opening my mouth.

As long as I keep doing that, I'll always be ahead of 99% of other guys.

Pure gold.
Reply
#13

How to mentally deal with rude daygame rejections

Quote: (Yesterday 02:23 AM)AminoAcid Wrote:  

I'm a white daygamer in East Asia, and having some really good results.

However at times I'll do an approach where the girl completely ignores me, walks away, or just looks straight ahead without acknowledging me. Although the majority of my approaches do not go like this, when it does happen it hurts me hard to the core.

Does anyone have any advice on how to mentally handle these kinds of rejections such that I can put it behind me and continue a productive daygame session when it happens.

Get over your sense of entitlement. There was nothing "rude" about their behavior. It's all a figment of your imagination.

It's your bucks doing the talking anyway with "pickup" in SE Asia. It's more a form of soft prostitution.
Reply
#14

How to mentally deal with rude daygame rejections

Quote: (Yesterday 02:23 AM)AminoAcid Wrote:  

Does anyone have any advice on how to mentally handle these kinds of rejections such that I can put it behind me and continue a productive daygame session when it happens.

Laugh, shrug, and move on.

Don't dwell on it and know that there's plenty of other girls out there.


....or if she ignores, just whip your dick out

[Image: giphy.gif]
Reply


Forum Jump:


Users browsing this thread: 1 Guest(s)